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I recently met a girl off the internet. I contacted her after seeing her ad. We just had a couple email exchanges, texted a little and we met for dinner 2 nights ago. It was probably a typical meeting/date. I made no attempt to make a move on her, since we were just meeting for the first time.
Anyway, I texted her the next day to see if she wants to see me again. I was just being direct, so I know where I stand. She responded back with the same question. That was kind of lame, but whatever. I said "yes" she said "ok" I left it at that. Now I think she seems too passive or uninterested. I know I can text her and ask her to do something specific. But it seems like I'm already having to make all of the effort or just having to put myself out there. I would be interested in seeing her again, but only if she makes some effort to contact me. The way I see it, is do I really want to be the only one making an effort?
Also, the reason for texting isn't because I won't talk on the phone. I told her in the second email, that we can text, but I would prefer a quick phone conversation rather than a lot of texting. I she texted me first, but she was at work and she said she would call after work, but didn't. It seems she is text dependent.
I think I'd continue to make more effort for the next couple of dates. I'd then leave it to her to put some effort in making first contact. If she doesn't do anything, than I'd move on and take her inaction as she isn't as interested in you.
You guys are probably right. It may be me that isn't that interested. Maybe I'll ask her out tomorrow and see how that goes. But she could at least say "hi". I think I lose interest a little when they don't do even the littlest things without being prompted and it could be a better use of my time to put my efforts elsewhere.
You're trying to rush things while at the same time trying to find reasons not to keep going out with her. You've got a united front in mucking up the possible relationship as fast as possible.
So you asked her a simple direct question, and she gave a simple, direct response.
She said yes, she would meet you again.
You know where you stand.
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Now go text her and ask her out somewhere.
(Technically, what you are doing is playing a game. You are sticking some bait out there, hoping you catch a fish... and then wondering what the fish is thinking as it swims around your bait. Taking some initiative should not be considered making too much effort in chasing. Now, you should not have to run marathons to chase, but asking her out on a specific date instead of asking a hypothetical is ok).
You haven't made THAT much effort yet. Why don't you text or call her and suggest a specific activity on a specific day/time and see how she responds. If she is vague or doesn't give you a direct answer, then move on.
So you asked her a simple direct question, and she gave a simple, direct response.
She said yes, she would meet you again.
You know where you stand.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
Now go text her and ask her out somewhere.
(Technically, what you are doing is playing a game. You are sticking some bait out there, hoping you catch a fish... and then wondering what the fish is thinking as it swims around your bait. Taking some initiative should not be considered making too much effort in chasing. Now, you should not have to run marathons to chase, but asking her out on a specific date instead of asking a hypothetical is ok).
But where's the fun, if I'm not playing a game?
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