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Why even tell him? I wouldn't bother. Least said soonest mended and all that. Just make sure the best man keeps his trap shut too and you're good to go.
In some places it would be a given that the bride had slept with someone in the wedding party, or at least a good proportion of the guests.
And don't come that "but I want to be honest" bs...if you'd wanted that, you wouldn't have lied in the first place.
The funny thing about 2 people hooking up within a social circle in most cases .. They think it is all undercover and no one else knows... while the rest of the social circle knows exactly what's going on and just aren't saying anything.
The funny thing about 2 people hooking up within a social circle in most cases .. They think it is all undercover and no one else knows... while the rest of the social circle knows exactly what's going on and just aren't saying anything.
The funny thing about 2 people hooking up within a social circle in most cases .. They think it is all undercover and no one else knows... while the rest of the social circle knows exactly what's going on and just aren't saying anything.
They probably don't care.
Only some brides-to-be about to be outed as lying hos care.
I don't think you should say anything. It isn't going to be taken well, and every time he sees that guy he will imagine all sorts of dirty things. You may as well roll the dice and keep quiet because finding out from you will be negligably better then finding out from his friend. I don't get why you lied in the first place but you can't unring a bell.
I don't think you should say anything. It isn't going to be taken well, and every time he sees that guy he will imagine all sorts of dirty things. You may as well roll the dice and keep quiet because finding out from you will be negligably better then finding out from his friend. I don't get why you lied in the first place but you can't unring a bell.
I actually agree.
Maybe have a talk with Sam about respecting your marriage and not talking about it - say, I don't know, control his drinking at the bachelor party so he can use better discretion?
The FWB was not a ONS in my mind, and I don't think it is worth throwing a wrench in things by having a guilt laden confession over it.
You didn't have a ONS with Sam, so you didn't lie about that. You did lie about only having meaningful relationships, unless the relationship with Sam was meaningful. I'd come clean about it as it's likely to come out at some point. Will it end your relationship with Robert? Possibly, but it's better to end it before you're married than later in a divorce.
I know it's a situation that has to be resolved. I for sure don't want it coming out after we're married. And I'm not a lying ho like Cindersslipper said. My "number" is not off the charts but it's probably higher (probably significantly higher) than Robert's. That plus the fact that Robert has conservative views on sex is why I didn't come out and say everything when we had the "talk."
So I haven't lied about Sam or my number. I just did not bring them up and I did that because I see in Robert a fantastic man who I love and who I want to be with. I didn't want to rock the boat
I know it's a situation that has to be resolved. I for sure don't want it coming out after we're married. And I'm not a lying ho like Cindersslipper said. My "number" is not off the charts but it's probably higher (probably significantly higher) than Robert's. That plus the fact that Robert has conservative views on sex is why I didn't come out and say everything when we had the "talk."
So I haven't lied about Sam or my number. I just did not bring them up and I did that because I see in Robert a fantastic man who I love and who I want to be with. I didn't want to rock the boat
Why are you so sure it will come out at all? And if you tell, what do you think you will accomplish? I get that you want to alleviate your own guilt, but what is in it for your fiancee to hear the truth?
I know it's a situation that has to be resolved. I for sure don't want it coming out after we're married. And I'm not a lying ho like Cindersslipper said. My "number" is not off the charts but it's probably higher (probably significantly higher) than Robert's. That plus the fact that Robert has conservative views on sex is why I didn't come out and say everything when we had the "talk."
So I haven't lied about Sam or my number. I just did not bring them up and I did that because I see in Robert a fantastic man who I love and who I want to be with. I didn't want to rock the boat
This is bad. Tell him before the wedding. Bad news does not get better with time.
Then stop lying and doing things that you think you might want to lie about.
So this is now confusing. Some of you guys are saying tell him and others are saying don't. I want to tell him cause I don't want to lie to theman I love but I know Robert. If I tell him it'll open a can of worms and he'll start asking questions about other guys, stuff I've done in the past and so on. My past is not terrible but it's not as "nice" as Robert would want. So I'm stuck
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