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The reaction depends on the guy. There are a lot of lame guys who feel the need to pay because they have low self-esteem. They feel they can't get women without buying affection so they prefer to pay. Those guys who have no problem with Dutch are confident that they have the personality to woo a woman without paying. I'm in the second category. If my chick always wanted to pay I don't see a problem.
I've insisted to splitting the bill right on the first date or second on many different occasions when I was single but let me tell you something: this is bad news. It means I don't plan on seeing the guy again.
I don't do it because of being kind but because I'm not interested in the guy wasting more time and money.
So I were single again and right away agree to pay for my part on the first date, means an early bye bye.
But some guys may be confused and take it as, "she's not into me." but, IMO, how she acts during the date determines if she is into me, not who pays the bill.
Actually that would be my reason why I'm paying early on. That's my way of saying ''I'm not into you''.
Personally, if I were to ask a guy to split the bill, it would not mean anything. I would just mention that I would like to go out again before asking to split the bill. That way, the guy would not feel as though I am trying to reject him. But I understand that some guys might get offended thinking the girl is trying to let them doing gently.
Personally, if I were to ask a guy to split the bill, it would not mean anything. I would just mention that I would like to go out again before asking to split the bill. That way, the guy would not feel as though I am trying to reject him.
Well everyone thinks differently. I was once dating a guy that kept picking his nose and ate like a pig in the restaurant. I split the bill right away and made an excuse that I had very important exams but I wanted to leave ASAP. Another time it happened when a guy kept telling me stories about his exes and how he always had trouble with again... jikes. I also split the bill right there.
It confused two guys, they thought I was interested in another date but most got the point already.
Actually that would be my reason why I'm paying early on. That's my way of saying ''I'm not into you''.
In this case, we are on completely different spectrums. And that is ok, we would just never get past date one.
But neither one of us would get burned in this scenerio, so we could walk away knowing we had one date that was fun, but also know that we weren't compatitble.
The reason I like dutch, or alternating the bill is beacuse many women take advantage of the situation. After having 1-3 dates with a woman and me paying the dates, only to have her say, "I'm not into you that way," gets a little frustrating. I want to know a woman is into me as a person, not interested in me only as an entertainer.
If I'm dating or genuinely interested, I orefer to pay. If she wants to offer occasionally I couldn't ve happier.
It's like holding the door open for a women or giving her your jacket. Is she capable of doing it herself? Sure. But chivalry isnt entirely dead in my book.
I'm 25 but I guess I'm a bit old fashioned in some senses.
I would think that the first few dates I should pay, after a bit she can too, or split occasionally... IDK... I don't have any forumula to it other than at first few I'm gonna make sure to pay.......
I would think that the first few dates I should pay, after a bit she can too, or split occasionally... IDK... I don't have any forumula to it other than at first few I'm gonna make sure to pay.......
Hey Chow, would you be interested in elaborating as to why you feel this way, what it means to you to pay the first couple of times?
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