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directed towards women, but the author argues how "Good enough" can be better than risking a possible alternative - waiting too long and getting to a point where you spend the rest of your life alone and lonely.
I know a lot of women who will settle for Good Enough... because they want to further their objective of having children and being in a marriage knowing fully well that it *may* not be the best of matches, perhaps they even convince themselves that it is the perfect match because they are so desperate for marriage and a family...years down the road after the novelty of marriage and children have faded they exit out.
How about men? Are there men out there that will settle as well? Are you willing to settle for "good enough" IF by a certain age you cannot meet the perfect match or are you willing to wait it out forever?
A friend once told me about marriage - if you are 70% or more confident then go for it because you will never ever feel 100% confident... i'd like to think this is untrue.
Is this coming from a place where you're trying to decide whether to be honest with your GF that you're considering breaking it off? Or did you finally tell her the truth?
I don't think anyone should "settle" if that's the way they view what they're doing. However, if one has a reality check about unrealistic expectations (like the average-looking 40-something man who has held out for a young 20's gorgeous 10 out of 10 woman) then recognizing there can be value in a good partner who comes in a slightly different package could bring love and companionship. I think it's possible to be naive and think love is perfect, that there are never disagreements, that even when two people are "the one" for each other and love each other dearly, they still have to learn to compromise and work out differences. So if "good enough" means living with the great partner who loves you, makes your life joyous and tends to be moody on occasion, that seems like a pretty decent deal compared to being alone. No one is perfect and as you get older, you start to understand that.
directed towards women, but the author argues how "Good enough" can be better than risking a possible alternative - waiting too long and getting to a point where you spend the rest of your life alone and lonely.
I know a lot of women who will settle for Good Enough... because they want to further their objective of having children and being in a marriage knowing fully well that it *may* not be the best of matches, perhaps they even convince themselves that it is the perfect match because they are so desperate for marriage and a family...years down the road after the novelty of marriage and children have faded they exit out.
How about men? Are there men out there that will settle as well? Are you willing to settle for "good enough" IF by a certain age you cannot meet the perfect match or are you willing to wait it out forever?
A friend once told me about marriage - if you are 70% or more confident then go for it because you will never ever feel 100% confident... i'd like to think this is untrue.
But In a certain sense, everyone has to settle for Good Enough.
The fact is, no two people on this earth are a perfect match for each other. No two people are 100% sexually compatible, no two people are 100% temperamentally compatible, no two people always agree on everything. Even people we love to death will anger, frustrate, and disappoint us at times. Younger people, in particular, often have this delusion that somewhere out there is someone perfect for them--i.e. The One. Well, I'm sorry, but the one is a myth. The One is a lit. There is no One.
I read the book, and it was really good. I read it to understand better how women think. It was eye opening. The basic message was to give men more of a chance and don't be so quick to eliminate someone. I'm really drilling it down too much, but the author tries to get women to think differently. I thought it was well written. But it didn't give me much hope because it confirmed what I already knew about women and how they view men.
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