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Have you ever "changed" for someone (girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife)?
Change, meaning:
Stopped smoking cause you wanted to and/or your (see above) wanted you to.
Got a better job cause you and/or (see above) wanted you to.
Decided to learn something new (golf, tennis, etc.) cause you wanted to and/or (see above) wanted you to.
My wife was looking for a cowboy type when she met me. She loved wearing a cowboy hat, boots and her Roper jeans, but all the guys she had met before me were the "nightclub" type cowboys. When I met her, I was really in to pro rodeo/team roping. The first time we met (thru a Personal Ad I had placed), she was wearing the hat, boots and jeans and so was I. Only thing was, her boots were not the type that the rodeo type gals were wearing. Her boots were the old fashion "pointed" type and all the gals (rodeo cowboy girlfriends/wives) were wearing the "lace-up" or slip-on type Roper boots. So I bought her a pair. She also had to learn the "rodeo lingo" and had no problem learning it. Then, a few years later, we bought her her first rifle and she loves it. Now, this was one lady that did want to "change", but for the right guy.........that was me!!!
Well, technically, the only person I've ever changed for is myself. To better myself, grew up, etc. Which in turn I suppose now is what effects my husband, my children and my friends and family. I believe that we shouldn't try to change who we are or what we believe in to please someone else because then you are not being true to yourself. However, I do believe in compromise which every relationship needs...so although I've never changed anything "important" to please someone, only to enhance my lifestyle and those I love (except the smoking thing....can't seem to kick it ), I am trying to grin and bear being a Giants fan for my husband LOL! He's trying to convert me from being a Steelers fan so I told him I'd watch the games with him, wear the shirt he bought me, allow him to decorate the house and train the children but I don't think I'll ever say the words "I'm a fan". But hey, you never know, they're not bad (did I just say that?!)
I would never change for somone, other then to better myself.
Did you ever notice when dating someone, at the beginning they are one way and then within a few months it's like Jekyl & Hyde? I don't get that. Why would you be different then yourself when you meet someone? They are going to find out eventually what you're really like anyway?
Not my husband, he had no problem passing gas on our first "date" (shhh, don't tell him I told you), but then again, we went to high school together so I guess he figured he couldn't be any jerkier than he was at 15 LOL!!
You shouldn't change your basic personality. Sure, there are certain things you should change, if they bother someone you care abuot. Maybe you are a slob and you should change and become more of a neat nick. Maybe you do certain things that really annoy your spouse. You should maybe work on eliminating those things. Those are mainly external things. If there is something in your personality that bothers another person, I don't believe you have to change that. You are who you are and you shouldn't have to change for anyon. If they don't like you the way you are, then you are not for them.
Everyone I've ever cared about has changed me to the extent that I wanted to change! There's a lot of wonderful things I might never have experienced if it wasn't for these people. One of the best things about close relationships is taking what you love the most and making it your own. And giving the best of yourself in return.
OMG! I am such a Pollyanna this morning. OK, they all taught me sex tricks too! Better?
I'm w/tet and yellow. While I haven't changed, I have added other's interests to mine. If you love/care for someone, you do those things to a certain extent. Alot of those things I carry w/me today. Korean food, 4-wheelin' etc.... I do have to say that when things are fresh and new, I will refrain from any offensive behavior *cough cough* lol
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I won't change for anyone again!
), I am trying to grin and bear being a Giants fan for my husband LOL! He's trying to convert me from being a Steelers fan so I told him I'd watch the games with him, wear the shirt he bought me, allow him to decorate the house and train the children but I don't think I'll ever say the words "I'm a fan". But hey, you never know, they're not bad (did I just say that?!)
