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Old 10-04-2013, 10:18 PM
 
Location: Pa
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The odds of getting struck by lightning is low, but every year there are golfers that play golf in the middle of a thunderstorm and get struck by lightning.

So get out there and ask women out. Eventually one will marry you.
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Old 10-04-2013, 10:20 PM
 
Location: mainland but born oahu
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Aloha,

I would join her in watching porn! I would question if im putting enough energy in a relationship if she feels she needs to go outside to get attention. Hmmm i wouldn't have problems with clubs, it just depends where we are at in our relationship, if we are having major problems then i would have issues with it.
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Old 10-05-2013, 09:13 AM
 
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The odds of getting struck by lightning is low, but every year there are golfers that play golf in the middle of a thunderstorm and get struck by lightning.

So get out there and ask women out. Eventually one will marry you.
more like I have a better chance at being Canonized than finding anyone these days. lol
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Old 10-05-2013, 10:56 AM
 
Location: mainland but born oahu
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more like I have a better chance at being Canonized than finding anyone these days. lol
I bet frog that if you changed your thinking and maybe tried some positive affermation? You may get the girl.
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Old 10-05-2013, 11:01 AM
 
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I bet frog that if you changed your thinking and maybe tried some positive affermation? You may get the girl.
lol. Oh man. If you only knew.
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Old 10-05-2013, 12:08 PM
 
Location: mainland but born oahu
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lol. Oh man. If you only knew.
Frog ive seen some narly dudes get some fine ladies and i scratch my head sometimes. Attitude, personality, and confidence are sometimes better then looks. Ive seen it happen so i know it can be a reality. Don't giveup on self.
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Old 10-05-2013, 01:40 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Watching 'normal porn? Daily? Sure. As long as she still wanted sex w. me.

Watching gangbang porn? BDSM porn? Other pretty-serious porn? Sure. Usually, we watch it together.

Chatting online, sexting, etc. with guys in other countries? Sending them nude pics of herself? Not unless it was a gag.

Chatting/sexting with local guys she has not met, but who think that she is planning to meet them? No. That's cheating.

Camming/skyping with guys, nude? Long distance? Local? Showing herself masturbating? Orgasming? Only if we were desperately broke, she came up with the idea, and she was getting paid for it. As I've said elsewhere, I've had friends (of both sexes) who've done this in hard times. We'd have to be on the verge of eviction for me to be okay with it, but not because I look down on sex workers. Because I think my wife would suffer emotionally for it, knowing her personality

Going to clubs that feature male strippers? With friends? Alone? Sure. My wife is bi and extremely selective about men she finds attractive though so I'd be surprised if she went anywhere but a 'standard' strip club.

Now, which of these things do you feel are ok for you to do, when you are in a serious relationship? If some things are different from what you said for gf, why are they different? I'd respond the same if the questions were turned around on me. What's good for the goose is good for the gander, plus, I'm not a jerk or a hypocrite.

p.s. I trust my wife more than I trust myself on many things. Money being the biggest one.
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Old 10-05-2013, 03:30 PM
 
Location: Chicago
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Watching 'normal porn? Daily?

Watching gangbang porn? BDSM porn? Other pretty-serious porn?

Chatting online, sexting, etc. with guys in other countries? Sending them nude pics of herself?

Chatting/sexting with local guys she has not met, but who think that she is planning to meet them?

Camming/skyping with guys, nude? Long distance? Local? Showing herself masturbating? Orgasming?

Going to clubs that feature male strippers? With friends? Alone?

Now, which of these things do you feel are ok for you to do, when you are in a serious relationship? If some things are different from what you said for gf, why are they different?

I think it's often easier to accept things in ourselves than in our partners. We have more trust in ourselves, maybe .
I am okay with all of it.

One of the longest relationships I had was non-monogamous, and it was such a relief! No need to lie, cheat, hide things from each other. But there was no jealousy, because sleeping with someone else was not some earth-shattering, extinction-level event.
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Old 10-05-2013, 04:08 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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A little porn maybe, the rest..... not so much.

I really don't mind if my SO finds some dude hot and needs to handle her affairs while thinking about him..... for some reason doesn't really bother me, as long it all stays in fantasy land.

Her ballin the next door neighbor... not so much.
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Old 10-05-2013, 06:56 PM
 
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Watching 'normal porn? Daily?

Don't care

Watching gangbang porn? BDSM porn? Other pretty-serious porn?

Weird, but whatever.

Chatting online, sexting, etc. with guys in other countries? Sending them nude pics of herself?

That's kind of crossing the line.

Chatting/sexting with local guys she has not met, but who think that she is planning to meet them?

Chatting as friends, don't care. Sexting, crossing the line.

Camming/skyping with guys, nude? Long distance? Local? Showing herself masturbating? Orgasming?

Line crossed

Going to clubs that feature male strippers? With friends? Alone?

Don't care

Now, which of these things do you feel are ok for you to do, when you are in a serious relationship?

Expect the same for myself
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