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When choosing to date or get involved with someone in a serious way, is it important to you to know the number of sexual partners they've had? Do you think less of your partner or prospective partner if he/she had number "a lot" (which is subjective) of partners?
I was my ex-husband's first. He never inquired about my number. Actually, I've only discussed such matters in a serious way with two partners. In both cases we volunteered the information as we began the topic of our dating experiences and history. It was never a big deal or concern of mine in these situations or any other.
I did have a gentleman I briefly dated admit to having slept with over 150 women in the 19 months he was in the dating scene. Apparently, he suffered a really bad breakup and had just lost over 100 lbs and gained a renewed confidence and self-esteem.
When choosing to date or get involved with someone in a serious way, is it important to you to know the number of sexual partners they've had? Do you think less of your partner or prospective partner if he/she had number "a lot" (which is subjective) of partners?
No, it is not important to know the number unless it's an extreme case, like he was trying to emulate Gene Simmons with thousands of Polaroids of thousands of women. Sexual compulsiveness on that level by anyone, even a rock star, indicates some kind of psychiatric issue.
But other than that, it is none of my business. A man's past relationships, whether they were 3 years, 3 weeks, or 3 hours, are between him and the women he had them with, regardless of how many there have been. As long as he has a clean bill of health, that's all that matters.
And besides, that line of questioning gets more and more unseemly and ridiculous the older you get. It's generally something people under 23 or 24 worry about. Once you're in your 30s, it just sounds silly to discuss, and when you get to be in your 40s, well, asking someone about it is pretty much just asking to be written off as a nosy and insecure weirdo. Most people grow out of this kind of disrespectful and prurient interest. Or should.
...that line of questioning gets more and more unseemly and ridiculous the older you get. It's generally something people under 23 or 24 worry about. Once you're in your 30s, it just sounds silly to discuss, and when you get to be in your 40s, well, asking someone about it is pretty much just asking to be written off as a nosy and insecure weirdo. Most people grow out of this kind of disrespectful and prurient interest. Or should.
^^^ THIS!
It never crossed my mind to ask about the number of sexual partners. Why is that important?
Unless they have diseases. Then it's your business.
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