Why are Americans not embracing what Kate Middleton did: going to college to find a husband

[rationalmale18]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

Here's a guy who doesn't know women! Beyond the party girls he admits to hanging out with. There are always women looking for solid partner material, and often those are the quiet but steady guys. Since these aren't flashy women, it's not surprising they go under a lot of guys' radar.

Lol

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by Braunwyn

Omg that is hilarious. Seriously, tho, most of my profs in college were old and narly.

Her's probably was too.

[ohio_peasant]

Originally Posted by omaraz

I don't think it's a matter of "figuring it out" as much as it is a cultural difference. ...

Why don't American newlyweds typically live with one set of parents until they are financially set as a couple? Why don't Americans typically live 3 generations in a household? These are things that are cultural expectations in other parts of the world but not embraced by the US. Everywhere is different.

Exactly! In mainstream US culture, one of the most shameful things that could happen to a young adult is to move back into her/his parents' house after college. The young person "failed" to become an adult, while the parents "failed" to properly raise him/her. In some other cultures, NOT moving back after college is what's considered shameful. Only louts and degenerates move out on their own.

But I don't see the present debate as being one between the US and Europe. The two are much alike. The thread started with one spectacular example amongst celebrities, from which was formed a generalization about cultures. The generalization has not been supported.

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

...The fairly universal complaint was that none of the men asking them out had any interest in them as people; they never asked about their academic interests, their thoughts about life, their family experience, etc. Clearly, this is what the women were expecting from their dates, but it never happened; the dates were only about demands for sex. So they quit dating, and swallowed their anger. ...men were either all about hookups, or they weren't approaching women at all, due to shyness/awkwardness, or just weren't interested in dating.

I've read similar interviews and reports - enough to believe the evidence. But again, my own experience was different. College was in the early 1990s. Some classmates spoke openly about their girlfriends, neither with self-effacing shame at having partnered too early, nor with sophomoric pride at having at having "scored". Others cleaved to their books and laboratories. I heard nothing about "hook ups"; certainly not at the engineering campus. This was at a flagship public research-oriented university.