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And by the way, Ruth4Truth is 100% correct. Reread her posts, or have someone with a grain of emotional intelligence explain them to you. Maybe using diagrams and formulas.
You didn't. You haven't made it clear at all how you feel about her. You haven't mentioned whether or not you'd act on her "signals" if she weren't in your class. The implication has been that you're avoiding her advances just because she's in your class, and no other reason. It would be helpful if you could clarify your position. What you have said is that you don't want others in your class knowing what kind of underwear you wear. That implies you might pursue a relationship with this woman IF she weren't in your class. Maybe you didn't mean to imply that, but it's a pretty weird thing to say if you had no personal interest in her at all.
It's not normal to avoid exploring the potential for a personal relationship (assuming mutual interest) with someone just because they're in your class, and because you have an irrational fear that the person would tell classmates intimate details about you. Nobody else in college thinks like that. No one with a healthy psyche, anyway.
No, I'm not interested in her if I haven't made myself clear. I wouldn't want anything with her whether or not she was in my class.
No, I'm not interested in her if I haven't made myself clear. I wouldn't want anything with her whether or not she was in my class.
Okay.
Then why is any of this a concern . . . you are not interested in her . . . she is obviously interested in you . . . you are not going to reciprocate by pretending to be interested in her . . . so you are going to be polite and distant, right?
How is this a problem?
Polite but distant should work . . . she will move on . . .
But yeah, this is not typical. Most guys would be thrilled to have someone come on to them and make it very clear they are interested.
That is why I mentioned the cultural differences. It seems to me you are taking all this much too seriously, i.e., if you act interested, or (GOD FORBID!) take her out on a date, will it mean you are engaged? She will announce you are a couple and heading towards marriage and you will be on a runaway train you cannot stop?
Somehow, I don't think so but I do think you are waaaaayyy too serious about this.
I also wouldn't have sex with someone from my college.
1. You won't date someone from your department
2. You won't have sex with anyone from your college
Just make that statement at lunch one day . . . that should solve the "dilemma" . . . the females will avoid you like the plague once you make it clear you don't date or have sex with classmates.
Then why is any of this a concern . . . you are not interested in her . . . she is obviously interested in you . . . you are not going to reciprocate by pretending to be interested in her . . . so you are going to be polite and distant, right?
How is this a problem?
It's very embarrassing to me and actually a bit suspicious when there are much better looking guys around who are available.
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Originally Posted by anifani821
But yeah, this is not typical. Most guys would be thrilled to have someone come on to them and make it very clear they are interested.
That is why I mentioned the cultural differences. It seems to me you are taking all this much too seriously, i.e., if you act interested, or (GOD FORBID!) take her out on a date, will it mean you are engaged? She will announce you are a couple and heading towards marriage and you will be on a runaway train you cannot stop?
Somehow, I don't think so but I do think you are waaaaayyy too serious about this.
I don't like to have loose ends in my life.
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However, what does that have to do with social costumes? Is this not allowed to happen in the US?
