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My old gf has recently popped back into my life. She's on a trial split up with her currenty beau and recently asked me to come over to comfort her. I declined knowing that it most likely would pull us back into a relationship that I stepped out of because of circumstances out of either of our control.
I have had more than a few girlfriends in my life and a couple since we split to know that we had something that I doubt I will find easily in another woman. She had her fair share of boyfriends when she was younger and was coming out of a 8 year long marriage when we met. I'm not sure if she really was "the One" to use an over used term as of late, but I can say I was completely consumed by her and I know the feelings were mutual.
Cutting to the chase, she has always been a one man woman and was completely devoted to me until our split. She was completely devoted to her husband prior to me, and I know she has been completely devoted to her boyfriend until now??
My question for the women here is how can someone who is a one man woman rationalize calling up the old Love of your life and invite him over when you were just with your beau (or ex beau) 10 days prior?
My question for the women here is how can someone who is a one man woman rationalize calling up the old Love of your life and invite him over when you were just with your beau (or ex beau) 10 days prior?
10 days has passed. That's how. No overlap.
I think you have to look at her overall pattern. It sounds like she's a relationship hopper. She needs to be with someone. One man woman or not - that's not a good sign.
I think you have to look at her overall pattern. It sounds like she's a relationship hopper. She needs to be with someone. One man woman or not - that's not a good sign.
^This.
OP, sounds like they're "on a break" or they've split up so she's not overlapping or cheating. Like you said, she was coming out of an 8 year marriage when you met her and you've both had relationships since you split. Curious--how long after you broke up did she begin dating someone else?
I think you have to look at her overall pattern. It sounds like she's a relationship hopper. She needs to be with someone. One man woman or not - that's not a good sign.
She has only been with 3 men over a 15 year period, with a year plus between her ex husband and me. I don't know if thats enough history to say she is a relationship hopper. I think she may be afraid to be alone so maybe. I almost feel as she's hedging her bet with me being back up. She is an extemely honest person, but I'm looking at this as being a little devious.
OP, sounds like they're "on a break" or they've split up so she's not overlapping or cheating. Like you said, she was coming out of an 8 year marriage when you met her and you've both had relationships since you split. Curious--how long after you broke up did she begin dating someone else?
She did the fade on me, but from what I can tell it was probably about two months before mutual friends said she was seeing someone.
I think you have to look at her overall pattern. It sounds like she's a relationship hopper. She needs to be with someone. One man woman or not - that's not a good sign.
I agree.......you would think that if she was that into him and was genuinely upset by the split that she would take time to heal and mend her broken heart not call her ex for comfort. To me this shows she can't or doesn't like to be on her own and that's not good hun, be careful
She is looking to see if you are going to be her back up plan if it does not work out with the current or last guy.
I doubt you both were so "consumed" though because you are now split up, completely consumed usually lasts completely.
On a personal level it was. On a practicle level she had teen age sons that were stealing from me, she lived in a house that was full of animals and never met someone who she would turn down for help. Love does not conquer all in this case, I would have gone crazy if I was to move in with her and I would not expect her to give up on her kids..
Can't answer your question. Her behavior isn't something I don't understand. Heck I don't even understand trial breakups!
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