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Old 01-30-2014, 08:22 AM
 
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My wife and I have been in seperate bedrooms now for over a year and have not had sex in almost two years. How long should I give her before moving on literally? Need women's opinions here, I know what all the guy's would say. Thanks!
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Old 01-30-2014, 08:25 AM
 
Location: SoCal again
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What do you mean?

How long until you should end the marriage?
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Old 01-30-2014, 08:28 AM
 
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How long have you been married ? Is there a reason why your not having sex? Did you marriage fizzle out? Tell us more .I will give an answer then.
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Old 01-30-2014, 08:43 AM
 
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In my opinion it depends on the quality of the sex and the happiness/health of the relationship with the guy one is having sex with. So if the sex is not orgasmic* or pleasurable for the gal and/or she holds resentment, anger, bitterness, etc for the guy then there is no such thing as too long for no sex.

* To me foreplay orgasms do not count so if foreplay is the only way to orgasm for me there would be no sex just foreplay as I see no point in engaging in penetration without an orgasm.
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Old 01-30-2014, 08:44 AM
 
Location: NY
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Two years is already a very inordinately long time.

Not enough info to advise. Have the two of you tried counceling to work through whatever issues are there?
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Old 01-30-2014, 08:48 AM
 
Location: Long Island, NY
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My wife and I have been in seperate bedrooms now for over a year and have not had sex in almost two years. How long should I give her before moving on literally? Need women's opinions here, I know what all the guy's would say. Thanks!
There seems to be a lot of information missing here. Sounds like your marriage is over. If my husband and I were only co-habitating because we couldn't afford divorce and separate households then I would hope that we had an open discussion about "moving on". I know someone who is in that situation. They are legally separated but can't afford divorce and having 2 households so he lives in the basement and goes about his business.
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Old 01-30-2014, 09:35 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Just to be clear, your issues aren't about lack of sex.
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Old 01-30-2014, 09:44 AM
 
Location: Concord, California
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I'm confused, you're wanting only mens' input, but have stated that you already know what they would say? Are you just looking for affirmation for your side of things? What is your side of things?
Not having shared a bedroom or had sex in a long time sounds like punishment for something?
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Old 01-30-2014, 09:52 AM
 
Location: NY
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How long were you and your wife officially "seperated" Seperated 49 Man with Children seeks FunPal in SW CT

If the relationship has not improved, why did you get back together?

Did you end up seeing anyone during the time you were seperated? (Since, clearly, you were looking).

When did you and your wife begin to have a fallout? Over what issues?

More info would help!
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Old 01-30-2014, 09:57 AM
 
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Unless there is a major health problem, a couple of months.

You're not in a marriage. You have a roommate.
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