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I met this guy through a mutual friend. We spent a night out together with friends, drinking and having fun. There was obvious chemistry. The next day, he messaged me on facebook and said he'd love to take me out in the near future, gave me his number and asked for mine. I accepted, and gave him my number.
That was almost a week ago, and I've heard nothing. I talked to my mutual friend about him, and my friend says he's very shy when he really likes someone and it takes him a while to get up the guts to follow through on planning the first date. Basically the more he likes someone, the harder it is for him to make a move.
I'm on the fence about whether I should wait any longer for him to get up the guts to follow through on asking me out. I've dated guys in the past who were on the shy/sensitive side, and I ended up doing most of the work in the relationship because they weren't assertive. I didn't like that, and I don't want to set myself up again here.
Thoughts?
Yeah, move on and let him learn his lesson for being a wuss
I met this guy through a mutual friend. We spent a night out together with friends, drinking and having fun. There was obvious chemistry. The next day, he messaged me on facebook and said he'd love to take me out in the near future, gave me his number and asked for mine. I accepted, and gave him my number.
That was almost a week ago, and I've heard nothing. I talked to my mutual friend about him, and my friend says he's very shy when he really likes someone and it takes him a while to get up the guts to follow through on planning the first date. Basically the more he likes someone, the harder it is for him to make a move.
I'm on the fence about whether I should wait any longer for him to get up the guts to follow through on asking me out. I've dated guys in the past who were on the shy/sensitive side, and I ended up doing most of the work in the relationship because they weren't assertive. I didn't like that, and I don't want to set myself up again here.
Thoughts?
Shy is beig quiet, reserved, introverted, etc, when in a social situation.
Going out, having a good time, proposing a date through facebook, then disappearing is not being shy.
He either is not that interested as it seems, changed his mind, or has an anxiety over actually planning the date. May be anxiety that a real date would bring added pressure or something. Either way, this is not just being shy.
IMO, take the initiative. He already sort of asked you out. So call him, and say something like "since you asked me out the other day, I know of this great X, or cool Y going on, want to go with me Saturday?"
He either goes, you have fun, or he declines, and then you can move on.
I've dated shy guys. Shyness isn't indicative of emotional sensitivity. Think of the grown up 40 yr old teenager who's shy and still playing the world of warcraft in his mama's basement.
The prototype of shyguy but probably clueless or very selfish to the needs of others so long as he has his endless supply of snacks, porn and video games doesn't equate to empathic abilities.
Not to say shyness can't contribute to being more observant and thoughtful. Depends on the person.
I've dated shy guys. Shyness isn't indicative of emotional sensitivity. Think of the grown up 40 yr old teenager who's shy and still playing the world of warcraft in his mama's basement.
The prototype of shyguy but probably clueless or very selfish to the needs of others so long as he has his endless supply of snacks, porn and video games doesn't equate to empathic abilities.
Not to say shyness can't contribute to being more observant and thoughtful. Depends on the person.
Maybe you should speak more on your experiences to come to such a conclusion.
How has it been going? Is he coming out of his shyness and becoming more comfortable and open with his feelings?
He has been, yes. But he's done a few things that have demonstrated his lack of confidence that really turned me off. I don't want to get into them here. But they're red flags, and I know better.
He has been, yes. But he's done a few things that have demonstrated his lack of confidence that really turned me off. I don't want to get into them here. But they're red flags, and I know better.
Okay. I am sorry about that. It just seemed like u guys hit it off really well and it is so hard to have instant chemistry with anyone nowadays. I missed the college days when we developed feelings for friends or classmates who we know pretty well and it was good. Now, first time meeting up can be either a hit or a miss.
I just dont understand why he can be so shy lol. From ur point of view, he is good looking and decent. Yeah, you are better off with someone else.
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