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Very tough to hold children hostage (better yet, raise them knowing their parents stayed miserabke "for them") in an untenable relationship, too, and in the process, warp their views of what a healthy, happy marriage/relationship is.
It's very tough to do.. but everyone in the family can feel the tension. The question is.. how could it be impossible for the children not to feel what is being presented within close proximity of any family? Is it possible to take the frustration that is supposedly 'unseen' to other places in their life? In other words, no one is hiding anything except the persons trying to hide it.
Here you can be faceless and talk about your business. I think sharing it here is healthy rather than sharing it with friends where word will go around.
I vent about any issues I have with my husband in my own written journal and discuss the issue with him for as long as it takes to get it settled. Intimate details about our private lives is never up for discussion but I do from time to time mention I'd like to poke him multiple times with a very sharp stick but no details.
It appears so many have no qualms about posting their graphic sexual adventure details with absolutely everyone which is their choice but does everyone on the planet need to have every detail of your sexual experience and what exactly you do during sex or your sexual gratification with yourself, your doll or another human?
I don't think so.
Very tough to hold children hostage (better yet, raise them knowing their parents stayed miserabke "for them") in an untenable relationship, too, and in the process, warp their views of what a healthy, happy marriage/relationship is.
Right. So how do you get out of it? I am dealing with an unreasonable spouse who would not mind divorcing but is not interested in a fair resolution. Any movement toward one will produce a volatile, impossible situation. And the kids don't want a divorce either.
As far as showing the kids what a healthy, happy marriage is, I don't advise them to ever get married in the first place. You see, they are male.
It's very tough to do.. but everyone in the family can feel the tension. The question is.. how could it be impossible for the children not to feel what is being presented within close proximity of any family? Is it possible to take the frustration that is supposedly 'unseen' to other places in their life? In other words, no one is hiding anything except the persons trying to hide it.
Yes, I am aware of what you are saying. Hence my characterization of this situation as intractable.
I vent about any issues I have with my husband in my own written journal and discuss the issue with him for as long as it takes to get it settled. Intimate details about our private lives is never up for discussion but I do from time to time mention I'd like to poke him multiple times with a very sharp stick but no details.
It appears so many have no qualms about posting their graphic sexual adventure details with absolutely everyone which is their choice but does everyone on the planet need to have every detail of your sexual experience and what exactly you do during sex or your sexual gratification with yourself, your doll or another human?
I don't think so.
Yeah, I'm just waiting for one of these womanizing serial daters to come back and start a thread- "She read my CDR and it's now my third night on the couch...help!"
I've been on this forum for about 6 yrs or so and have never once disclosed any personal problems between Mrs. Chow and I on this forum. I make mention about her a lot, but have never talked about any of our "issues."
What ever works for people, I'm not sure if it's a betrayal, as most people here are anonymous and don't know each other in real life.
I'd be more upset if she went to people we know and discussed our stuff as opposed to a public forum where she could be anonymous....
This came up in a few threads, lately, and I think it deserves some real discussion.
Several posters have made comments that it is always a betrayal to post about your problems in a relationship, or in your sex life with a particular person.
To me this seems bizarre. I certainly take note of how people post about their partners -- do they do it with consideration for privacy, leaving out details that might be embarrassing or getting the partner's permission to post them, do they have an attitude of respect and admiration for their partner or to they seem to be simmering with resentment, or patronising, etc.?
But when a person describes the problems with respect and with compassion for their partner's point of view, I think such discussion is healthy! In fact, I will not date someone who doesn't have people, preferably IRL as well as online, they can talk to about difficulties in the relationship. I think outside points of view, and people to vent to, are essential.
That guy in the '(hetero)' thread, for example. If his wife tells him he is bad in bed, is he going to listen? Heck, no. He as already decided the problem is all her, and that all women hate sex. But if 20 people on the internet tell him otherwise, some of them men, there's a possibility that he might.
So what do you think? Always a betrayal? Sometimes, but depends on tone?
She's never told me that - that has been my point all along.
Sorry to hijack.
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