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Anyway, I'm home now, so I can post this video of the treatment I'm considering for those who were curious. If not, don't watch.
You either have to decide to undertake treatment, or find an asexual guy. You keep dating guys who have a sex drive, and that's unfair to them.
You have stated before that you have not done the treatment that the doctor recommended, so obviously this is not a priority for you, yet you continue to date.
What do you hope to accomplish with the path you are taking?
Most people are going to want sex at some point, and you are not capable of providing that, and don't tell the guys up front.
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You either have to decide to undertake treatment, or find an asexual guy. You keep dating guys who have a sex drive, and that's unfair to them.
You have stated before that you have not done the treatment that the doctor recommended, so obviously this is not a priority for you, yet you continue to date.
What do you hope to accomplish with the path you are taking?
Most people are going to want sex at some point, and you are not capable of providing that, and don't tell the guys up front.
There was no specific treatment that was recommended to me by a doctor. The video points out that not everyone is able to use dilators at home without assistance for various reasons, and I fall into that category so I'd rather try the Botox treatment, so I'm actively looking into that.
Regarding it being "unfair" for me to simply date men who aren't asexual, I don't agree. If we're not exclusive, they can get their sexual needs taken care of elsewhere. I did feel bad about not being able to have sex with my ex considering the length of time we dated, but I ended things when I felt we had tried enough and he was always free to end things prior to that. I don't think that any guy is obligated to keep dating me and wait endlessly for sex, but I also don't feel like I have an obligation to have sex with men who I barely know. Is it unfair for men to date women who want relationships if those men are only interested in casual sex? Is it unfair for a man who never wants to marry to casually date a woman who does? I'm really not going to lose sleep over the fact that I didn't have sex with men who didn't give a crap about me anyway. I think you're looking at it from the perspective that even if I did meet a great guy who wanted to be exclusive, I can never have sex with him so I'd just be wasting his time, but I don't believe I'll never be able to have sex. The Botox treatment only takes 3 days, and women have successfully had sex shortly thereafter.
I have exes who are married now, and we're friends on FB (their wives are FB friends with me too), because I am not wrapped up in the past, like insecure in any way. I can't imagine being concerned whatsoever about an ex being married or moving on, or what his new woman looks like.
So no, not all women think like the original poster.
Just forget about him move on and try to find someone else for you.. your past just hurt you only so just move on..
You're right, relationshippro! I am over him, we were never in love, but it still hurt me to hear that he was married because it made it clear to me that I've made zero progress in the last 5 years and that's not a good thing. But this might've been the wake up call that I needed.
I'm done replying to this thread because I've said all I needed to say, but the last time I asked for a thread to be closed, I was told that my request alone wasn't a valid reason to have it closed.
5 years ago.... if you aren't over it by now, you will never get over it. Obviously he has gotten over it quite well.
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