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You're not completely wrong, however, addressing the issue by using dilators isn't as simple as you might think. There is a more aggressive form of treatment that involves injecting Botox into your vaginal muscles while you're under anesthesia, and the dilator is inserted at that time so you wake up and it's already in there. It involves additional dilation exercises and counseling after that. It sounds cool, but I'm only aware of this treatment being available in New York. Not that I can't go to New York, but that's just a lot to do when I'm not even dating anyone who I'm considering sex with.
Why do you need these "dilators" and special treatments? Everything you've said so far indicates that this isn't a physical problem. If you feel like you need to be put under anaestesia just to insert something in your V...yikes, I don't know what to say.
But everything you're saying like "it's not that easy" are just cop outs you're using to not have to do anything about it.
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Why do you need these "dilators" and special treatments? Everything you've said so far indicates that this isn't a physical problem. If you feel like you need to be put under anaestesia just to insert something in your V...yikes, I don't know what to say.
But everything you're saying like "it's not that easy" are just cop outs you're using to not have to do anything about it.
She in, at another thread, indicated some physical trauma... I believe surgery.
Why do you need these "dilators" and special treatments? Everything you've said so far indicates that this isn't a physical problem. If you feel like you need to be put under anaestesia just to insert something in your V...yikes, I don't know what to say.
But everything you're saying like "it's not that easy" are just cop outs you're using to not have to do anything about it.
It's a psychological problem that leads to a physical one- i.e. if you're afraid that penetration will be painful, when you attempt penetration, you won't be relaxed and your muscles will tense up, so it WILL end up being painful or it just won't go in at all. The point of the dilators is to gradually train your mind and body to accept penetration without pain and fear. I understand that needing anesthesia to be penetrated sounds crazy, but it's that daunting of a thing for me. I've taken sedatives to get through gyn exams before and they weren't helpful, so I'd be happy to be knocked out and just wake up with the thing in there. lol
Also, the facility that specializes in this treatment is located in New Hampshire, not New York.
So I recently discovered that my ex-boyfriend got married and I'm kind of not happy about this. I haven't seen or spoken to him in the five years since we broke up and knew absolutely nothing about what was going on in his life. I assumed he was dating or in a relationship, but not MARRIED!!! I WAS SUPPOSED TO GET MARRIED BEFORE HE DID, BUT I'VE BEEN SINGLE EVER SINCE I BROKE UP WITH HIM.
He wasn't a horrible guy so I guess he deserves to be happy, but . I haven't seen the girl yet, but I really want to know what she looks like.
Why would you let his actions affect your life and why do you feel the need to see his wife?
Five years of no contact you should have moved on for good a long time ago.
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But what is the genesis of you thinking it will be painful? I mean, most women (that I've spoken about it with) were, ahh... playing with things in their since they were pre teens...
It's a psychological problem that leads to a physical one- i.e. if you're afraid that penetration will be painful, when you attempt penetration, you won't be relaxed and your muscles will tense up, so it WILL end up being painful or it just won't go in at all. The point of the dilators is to gradually train your mind and body to accept penetration without pain and fear. I understand that needing anesthesia to be penetrated sounds crazy, but it's that daunting of a thing for me. I've taken sedatives to get through gyn exams before and they weren't helpful, so I'd be happy to be knocked out and just wake up with the thing in there. lol
Also, the facility that specializes in this treatment is located in New Hampshire, not New York.
SLS, perhaps if you get yourself a Rabbit vibrator, it will help with your problem.
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. I haven't seen the girl yet, but I really want to know what she looks like.