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Last week I went out for drinks with an ex-coworker. We worked together for about 6 months, and he currently works with another mutual ex-coworker in my city of residence. When I ever I work from home, I ping the two of them to see if they want to go to happy hour (and invite my sister and everyone else I know in the neighborhood). A few weeks ago we all cancelled on each other, so he and I just scheduled drinks.
For some background, when we first started working together we found out he lives in a lame neighborhood. He fully admits it is the douchebag neighborhood. But it is the Bay Area, if you have rent control and a decent place, you don't move. So we would pick in him about his douchey neighborhood, and invite him places to meet normal people. . He's a cute guy, but completely not my type. We have no interest in each other, but get along well and always have good conversations. We are both cocktail snobs too, and he is building up his near work bar list as he has been in the new job for like 90 days.
So before last week's happy hour I ran into some volunteer colleagues at the bar. I said, I was meeting a friend and hung out with them while I waited for him. Several people were like "oh you two are having drinks,is it a date?" I replied, no we are friends.
Anyway, we are having out drinks and chatting. I go to the bathroom and run into a woman who works at my neighborhood coffee shop. We chat for a bit and then she says "your date is cute." I'm like, um what date.
And then it occurs to me. For some people having drinks with someone of the opposite sex (or more inclusively the sex you are interested in) means date.
So what do you all think, do you only have drinks one-on-one with the opposite sex if it is a date or can it just be friendly?
It can be friendly, I do it often with co-workers. (Sometimes, one or more of us just has a horrible day and needs to vent about it for 30 minutes over a martini with a colleague!)
Depends why you are going out In the first place I would imagine.
My office often goes out for lunches together to take breaks from the same old same old. It's mostly work related talk since it's our one definitive common bond with light socializing on the side.
Off company time nobody has any real incentive to hang around one another. We all work stupid hours and just want to be with our families and loved ones after a long day.
The few that do are younger people (straight out of collage crowd) who usually end up having something on the side away from work...
Last edited by rego00123; 07-14-2014 at 11:59 PM..
Of course. What an odd question. Do it all the time. If it is with a co-worker, it would never be anything else.
Same here.
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. He's a cute guy, but completely not my type. We have no interest in each other, but get along well and always have good conversations. We are both cocktail snobs too, and he is building up his near work bar list as he has been in the new job for like 90 days. 
