I'm in love with co-worker that's 22 years older than me and I'm in a relationship (boyfriend, girlfriend)
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I'm in a good relationship now for 4 years and I started working in a different department at my job 8 months ago and I'm falling for a co-worker 22 years older than me and he's single and likes me too. I get excited to go to work when I know he's there and my boyfriend has even made comments on me liking him. I'm so curious about him sexually that sometimes at work that's all I can think about. What do I do? I love my man but....
You have to make a choice who you love more and when you do stop contact with the other person, unless it's on a professional level. The worst thing you can do is go behind someone's back and have a relationship with another person, unless of course they're okay with it. It's really a matter of respect for everyone involved but you have to make a decision.
I'm so curious about him sexually that sometimes at work that's all I can think about. What do I do? I love my man but....
Your curiosity is just a fantasy that would more than likely be met with disappointment in reality. You've been with your dude for 4 years and you love him. How could you possibly be falling for a coworker if you don't even know him on a deep personal level (just a coworker level)? Sounds like it's just a crush and temptation. I've been on both sides of this fence. If you love your dude then you need to get your coworker out of your mind and train you brain to think differently to stop the temptation. You can do it. Once I heard good advice on the radio that I guess I never took...if temptation is leading you to cheat in your relationship, then you must take all means necessary to avoid that temptation, even if it means leaving your job and getting far away from the "crush".
..or you could just give up 4 years with your dude and get with this crush and see where that goes. Prob not going to go far like your current relationship since it's a coworker and based on lust. But it's your choice.
Maybe you should have an affair with your coworker, live the fantasy and continue with your live. I know this is not the best tip, but at least you'll fulfill your fantasy and be able to concentrate again afterwards.
Just remember, think of what's the worst that could happen and if you can live with it. If you can go on and approach this coworker of yours, if you cannot maybe you need to regain your focus for both your current relationship and your work.
Your curiosity is just a fantasy that would more than likely be met with disappointment in reality. You've been with your dude for 4 years and you love him. How could you possibly be falling for a coworker if you don't even know him on a deep personal level (just a coworker level)? Sounds like it's just a crush and temptation. I've been on both sides of this fence. If you love your dude then you need to get your coworker out of your mind and train you brain to think differently to stop the temptation. You can do it. Once I heard good advice on the radio that I guess I never took...if temptation is leading you to cheat in your relationship, then you must take all means necessary to avoid that temptation, even if it means leaving your job and getting far away from the "crush".
..or you could just give up 4 years with your dude and get with this crush and see where that goes. Prob not going to go far like your current relationship since it's a coworker and based on lust. But it's your choice.
Let me just emphasize the bold part.
As has been said here, I've been on both sides of the fence (though, not in a 4 year long relationship.) I understand that you feel like you want this person, but try to step back for a moment and think rationally.
Are you happy with your boyfriend?
Will you be happy with this man when he's laying on his death bed and you're still young?
Are you willing to give up a 4 year relationship with your boyfriend who you "love"?
Answer honestly and act honestly. If you really want to leave your boyfriend for this older man, then do it. If you love your boyfriend, don't do it.
Do not stay with your boyfriend and pursue this man. My ex girlfriend did that same thing to me (cheated on me with an old dude she worked with) and it's been 2 years and I still can get emotional about it.
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