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I know your culture is tough about this. I have a coworker who is Indian. She was married once to a Latino guy, then divorced, and now has lived with another Latino man for 15 years. They own a house together.
Not long ago she went to a family wedding--and brought her boyfriend--and one of her aunts pulled her aside and said, "You know, we can find an Indian man for you." As if she was only with her boyfriend because she couldn't find an Indian man.
The question still remains, why don't you like Indian chicks. Indian chicks from India, Indian chicks from America, Americanized Indian chicks, or American born Indian chicks.
So against my better judgement I took my gf to my parents dinner party. I though I could just keep her away from my parents by introducing her to my old friends. However, my mom was able to spot the one white person at the house and correctly deduced that she was my gf. My parents flipped out and now I'm no longer their son until I dump her and submit to an arranged marriage. For all intents and purposes I've been disowned because I have no intention of dumping her. I can live with it but my gf is pretty distraught over it and is asking me how she can get their approval. To make this night up to her I'm going to dedicate tomorrow to what she wants to do. But then what? I don't think she can let things go easily.
You just posted last week asking how you could convince them to like her so you would not get disowned and lose your inheritance.
That was a pretty quick change of perspective.
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I was born here. I am a self sufficient adult and my attitude IS American. Their finances mean nothing to me, all their assets are going to my brother when they die because he did everything right ( marry an Indian and pay them lip service) a sufficient portion of it also going to my sister's future dowry. As the 3rd of 4 kids I'm getting nothing.
If that's the case then tell them to go fu** themselves. Just because they are family doesn't mean you have to put up with their bigoted closed minded shenanigans. Live your life the way you want to live it, if they can't accept that then make your own family.
What's wrong with Indian chicks? They are some of the most beautiful women in the world, in my opinion. The fact that you refuse to say what is wrong with them makes me think it's because of some superficial bs reason.
It seems like every race of man has been brainwashed into thinking white and blonde is better. SMH.
not much you can do op, although you gotta understand your parents have your best intentions at heart. goris are nothing but trouble, especially from america.
i'm not really that racist (maybe like a 4 out of 10), don't really care who's poking on who. but i'm definitely against mixed children/marriages. it's just all around bad and confusing for everyone.
You're choices are: a) buckle under to your parents' demands or b) to continue adapting to the culture in which you live so as to improve your life and the life of the family you choose to start. Whether they eventually reconcile themselves to choice b, if you take that route, is not in your own heads.
I know this kind of thing happens in some cultures, but for the most part not so much to Americans.
Best I can say is, since you now live in America try to be more American in your attitudes and develop some self respect.
Of course this might mean walking away from their financial support in order to be independent of them but that's what most of us here would do.
^^^ This.
Now that you are in America Brofessional you really should try to adopt our attitudes on life when it comes to relationships. Since this is a cultural issue with your family that they brought with them from their homeland, its probably useless to get them to change, which is why its important that YOU be the change.
If financial assistance and/or "atta boy" from your parents is more important to you than finding love for yourself or risking losing someone who could be your "soul mate" and/or future bride then go ahead and put your parents views/wants/desires before your own. This is NOT the American way. To me, this is an easy easy easy easy easy thing to do.
Do what makes YOU happen, not what makes someone else happy.
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