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IF he was a good bf (despite the difference that made you break up), IF he had respected you all along, and IF he didn't do you wrong; I would take this letter as a token of appreciation.
So IF being friends with him, does not effect your future relationships in a bad way, and IF you can be friends with him and able to move on.... then yea, be friends with him.
Yes it was a recent breakup, he dumped me because he felt trapped. I moved away after the breakup, a couple days later I unfriended him to help myself heal and was sent a barrage of mean messages. Now it's a couple weeks later and I get much different messages, fwb is impossible because now I am far away but something doesn't feel right about this
This makes all the difference. If you ever entertained the thought of getting back together with him, don't. If you do, be prepared to be played like a yoyo.
Coming from a guy myself, I can agree with the other posters that are advising you to keep it moving.
This letter is basically a security deposit. He is trying to ensure everything is on good enough terms to have you when and if he wants you. He probably also feels guilty for ending things the way he did and is trying to relieve some of his guilt. I'm not going to advise you to never get back with him because people do make mistakes, especially at 23 most guys don't know what they want. All dumpers are not monsters, but if you ever hope to have a future with him, he is going to have to come with way more than this. He's going to need to have identified what went wrong, taken ownership, and coming up with a plan on how things would be different.
In the mean time, do not wait around for him. Work on yourself and when you're ready, date.
Yes it was a recent breakup, he dumped me because he felt trapped. I moved away after the breakup, a couple days later I unfriended him to help myself heal and was sent a barrage of mean messages. Now it's a couple weeks later and I get much different messages, fwb is impossible because now I am far away but something doesn't feel right about this
That greener grass on the other side of the fence must be turning brown and forcing him to use fertilizer.
Funny how people don't realize what they have 'til it's gone.
Hey, if you think it's a bad idea, that's all you need to know. You don't owe anyone any explanations or justification. If your friends or family ask, just tell them that interacting with him doesn't make you happy. People who love you and care about your well-being will understand and be supportive.
Good luck!
This. This. and This. If you feel it's bad for you, that's ALL you need.
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