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Of course not but I bet alot of women are delusional about their own rating. They think they are an 8 or 9, but turns out they really are a 4-5 in a guy's eyes.
I could say the exact same thing about a lot of men too.
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Well then that's my entire point.
So you agree with me that a woman's "window of opportunity" or however you put it, is 20-30?
That is the time to pick and choose. After that time is over, you cannot afford to pick and choose anymore. Cause guys aren't choosing you anymore.
So because women over 40 aren't able to attract men over 40, that's a reason for those women to lower their standards? They do have another option. It's called remaining single.
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I look at the dating profiles of women my age, and they really are awesome! They look good, are fit, have all kinds of cool jobs and hobbies. It's easy to tell that they love life, and have great relationships with their friend and family. Most of them I would rate 8-10.
Then I look at the profiles of the men. Some seem to be living life at about the same level as the women. But there is far more obvious dysfunction in their profiles. Many are clearly clinically depressed, there are c
Wow, I don't know what you're looking at. Really. I can't say much about the guys profiles, but there is loads of clues to alcholism/dysfunction/etc in the female profiles in my age range (38-48). Most don't look good, and the vast majority are loaded with rubbish that doesn't really say anything at all or is clearly pretty fake as they're saying they are effectively perfect. This has been true everywhere I've lived, SF, Chicago, Boston and other cities.
There are loads of good women's profiles, don't get me wrong, but nowhere near the majority. I'm not saying I'm a prize. I'm not. I'm very realistic about that, but neither are the vast majority of ladies.
So you agree with me that a woman's "window of opportunity" or however you put it, is 20-30?
That is the time to pick and choose. After that time is over, you cannot afford to pick and choose anymore. Cause guys aren't choosing you anymore.
You can always afford to pick and choose... especially when you are older. I've been there, done that. Been married, have a child, am self sufficient and have a good career, own my own home, etc, etc. I don't "need" a man in my life. I "want" one... I want to love someone and be loved and spend my time with him. But don't need just anyone. In that regard, a man is a luxury that I can pick and choice. And I am not being sexist either, I think men my age can very much say the same... they don't need women in their lives.
Which, I guess is my friend's point at the beginning... he told me my problem was I wasn't being picky enough when dating. And it makes a lot more sense now. It's like buying a luxury car at an auction. Why even bid on one that doesn't have the features you are looking for... by bidding and spending your resource on one that's not really what you want, when the one you do want comes along, you are going to miss it. Better to wait... even if that means you walk away empty handed and have to come back another day.
The gender ratio is 50:50 and marriage involves 1 guy and 1 girl.
Meaning at your age, there should be equal number of single guys as girls.
Where is the mathematical rationality?
Here's the mathematical reality: I went to a speed dating event last week for ages 40-55. The event started with 15 women and 11 men but one of the men left at the intermission; I only met 10. So it wasn't equal to start with. Just because dates are supposed to be 1:1, that doesn't mean speed dating events actually work that way. The very first one I went to was three years ago for ages 23-37, and there were 12 women and 11 men at that one, so it was pretty close. As I said, tonight's has sold out for the women but not the men. They try to keep it close but they can't force people to sign up or attend-so I'm curious as to how many extra women there will be tonight vs the men.
Just because there should be equality, doesn't mean there is. Also take into consideration I was widowed. What was a 1:1 ratio became a 1:0 ratio. Also, again, consider that not everyone is attending the same events to balance things out. On OKC, a lot of men answer that on their typical Friday night, they are relaxing at home after a long week. And most Meetup events (in this area) are attended primarily by women regardless of what type of group it is.
Just because there should be equality, doesn't mean there is. Also take into consideration I was widowed. What was a 1:1 ratio became a 1:0 ratio. Also, again, consider that not everyone is attending the same events to balance things out. On OKC, a lot of men answer that on their typical Friday night, they are relaxing at home after a long week. And most Meetup events (in this area) are attended primarily by women regardless of what type of group it is.
All meetups I attend are 80% men. Javascript meetups, Wordpress meetups, HTML/CSS/Database design meetups are all guy heavy.
All sports leagues are men heavy. Basketball, soccer, are all 80% guys.
Gyms are 80% guys.
My company's warehouse department is 80% guys.
I mean if you attend a friggin cooking or ballet meetup, what do you expect lol?
Wow, I don't know what you're looking at. Really. I can't say much about the guys profiles, but there is loads of clues to alcholism/dysfunction/etc in the female profiles in my age range (38-48). Most don't look good, and the vast majority are loaded with rubbish that doesn't really say anything at all or is clearly pretty fake as they're saying they are effectively perfect. This has been true everywhere I've lived, SF, Chicago, Boston and other cities.
There are loads of good women's profiles, don't get me wrong, but nowhere near the majority. I'm not saying I'm a prize. I'm not. I'm very realistic about that, but neither are the vast majority of ladies.
Yeah, maybe it's just a local thing. I went and looked at profiles in SF, and then men there seem way better than the women . Have not tried Boston or Chicago yet.
All meetups I attend are 80% men. Javascript meetups, Wordpress meetups, HTML/CSS/Database design meetups are all guy heavy.
All sports leagues are men heavy. Basketball, soccer, are all 80% guys.
Gyms are 80% guys.
My company's warehouse department is 80% guys.
I mean if you attend a friggin cooking or ballet meetup, what do you expect lol?
Are you suggesting a woman who's not into IT or sports go to tech meetups and sports bars?
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