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Old 02-26-2010, 05:16 PM
 
Location: Tempe, AZ
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I have read a bunch of threads on these topics. Men say women have too many requirements, and I know a few cases of that, but I wonder if men have too few sometimes. For example, you decide not to go for a 2nd date with someone you met in real time (not online I have no experience with that). For me the following would be the main reasons why and the logic behind it:
Treating service staff like crap - Shows how you treat people you are not trying to impress
Hates cats and/or dogs - I have 2 dogs and 1 cat and yes I will chuck an 2nd date before the pets
Bigoted - Do I even have to give a why?
Fanatic about any religion/ideology - Fanatics scare me
Mentions salary - Yeah I am old school/British on this. Salary is not a topic for first or even 5th dates. Uncouth to say the best
Displays signs of uncontrollable temper - See bigoted commentary
Mentions prior criminal past and/or drug habit - See bigoted commentary
Shows signs of severe mental illness - Same as above

So I have a list of more than 3 items. I suspect most men have a long list for relationships, but a short one for "I'll date you until we have sex, so 2nd date is ok even if I do not like you much"

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Old 02-26-2010, 05:47 PM
 
Location: CasaMo
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I don't see a problem with what your expectations are. The reason I say that is you are talking about important things. Things that really makes a person and defines them so absolutes matter. That's not being picky, its being a grown up.
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Old 02-26-2010, 05:56 PM
 
Location: Tempe, AZ
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I don't see a problem with what your expectations are. The reason I say that is you are talking about important things. Things that really makes a person and defines them so absolutes matter. That's not being picky, its being a grown up.
But I feel many men will say they have few requirements for a girl they want to f**k while having as many requirements as women for relationships. And that is fine, because it is a different motive. I balk at the slamming of others who have a longer list. I mean mine is 5-6 things, and I left off picking nose at dinner and the other obvious things (e.g. picking lice is bad, period)
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Old 02-26-2010, 06:00 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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You know where there are men who want a relationship and not just sex? Please point in that direction.
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Old 02-26-2010, 06:05 PM
 
Location: Pa
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There's men who want a relationship? :O
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Old 02-26-2010, 06:09 PM
 
Location: Tempe, AZ
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You know where there are men who want a relationship and not just sex? Please point in that direction.
And I bet they have a list as long as mine, or longer. Which is my point, men have a long list for women they want to be with for a while and a short list for the rest. Women have a list as well, but since in general dating means seeking a longer term mate they do not give a pass to things as easily.**

** There are outliers in every observation, and my views are mine. I claim no authority
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Old 02-26-2010, 06:31 PM
 
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You know where there are men who want a relationship and not just sex? Please point in that direction.
Plenty of those around. Some are even here on C-D.

There's a nice Pirate on the "Why don't men pursue women?" thread.

A fellow out in Montana has said he wants a committed relationship, too.
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Old 02-26-2010, 06:44 PM
 
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Everybody is free, but in life there are consequences to actions.

Having high standards is fine, if persons can find dates with those standards. I'd worry about a person who never did have standards. Dating is inherently discriminatory.
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Old 02-26-2010, 07:36 PM
 
Location: North America
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I'm strictly looking for a wife now so there's just the one set of requirements
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Old 02-26-2010, 07:39 PM
 
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Most of the time I find men who want it all - marriage, baby, picket fence.

I think they just see me as the marrying kind. I guess I meet the list of requirements.
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