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It's like any tool. It depends on how you use it and what you expect from it. I've done online dating on and off over the years and I never had a bad experience with it, certainly not as bad as some of the horror stories you hear. Some sites are better than others, not so much because of the type of people that are on there, but more because of how certain sites set up to help you find people you'd have any interest in. I don't try to compare it to regular dating. The whole point of it is to have an extra way of meeting people, not as a replacement to traditional dating. I like that it allows you to meet people you might not otherwise meet in your everyday life and that it makes it easier to filter out people who are all wrong for you. For a lot of us who lead busy lives, that's a huge time saver.
You'll find plenty of people on here saying it's a waste of time, that all the people on it are liars, that it's for losers, etc. But again, I think that says more about the people who are trying it than the concept of online dating itself. It's important to go in with realistic expectations. You're not going to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right after one month and you're going to find people who lie or post old photos. But people lie in real life too so no there's avoiding that. If you're someone who isn't happy with the quality of people you're meeting in real life or if you don't meet people you'd want to date very often, then I think online dating is worth trying. But again, it shouldn't replace traditional dating nor should you go in thinking you're going to have an easy time finding someone.
I find it efficient. You get a bunch of people together who want various forms of relationships (sex, marriage, dating, etc.), you communicate and work out who wants to date who. It seems worse because it is regular dating "concentrated", for lack of a better term. Pretty much whatever you experience you have in "real life" will be more so for online dating.
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I have said this before, but I think online dating can be poisonous for men if not used correctly. I use it myself personally, however; it is merely a supplement to fill in the gaps when I am not out actively trying to meet women in person which I spend more time doing. Online dating allows me to 'virtually' get myself out there, and that's about it.
The reason why I say it is poisonous is because men use it as a 100% primary means of meeting women which is the worst possible thing they can do. It is concieveable that they will send out 100 messages and get no response. Furthermore, you can spend many many hours doing this with little to show for it. I know some guys who will send out 100 messages, and maybe get 1-2 responses, which typically lead up to not meeting up anyway. Plus there's no value getting rejected online. You don't get the social interaction, or ability for feedback on an inperson rejection. It's just an empty rejection.
I just use to it meet women outside of my social circle. It's worked out pretty well for me, but there's a lot of flakes. It seems like most people are expecting the worst when they first meet someone.
I've had pretty decent luck with it, I've met some fun women off it.
I think it's more rewarding to meet women in real life though, see them 4-5 times with small chat then suggest some coffee or something. It's way more fun that way. I do prefer OLD over going to bars though.
I find it efficient. You get a bunch of people together who want various forms of relationships (sex, marriage, dating, etc.), you communicate and work out who wants to date who. It seems worse because it is regular dating "concentrated", for lack of a better term. Pretty much whatever you experience you have in "real life" will be more so for online dating.
It seems like it would be good to just filter out the biggies, things like marriage, smokers, wanting kids, etc etc.....
I've been coupled up for so long I never did the OLD thing, but in theory it seems like it would be OK
So how has online dating been going out for you? Have you tried it and what did you think of it? Is it as any good as regular dating?
Not for me. On online dating sites I've found only married men, really weird men, and men looking to get laid. Meeting men locally in real life works best for me. That's why I suggest Meetup, volunteering, joining clubs and groups, etc.
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