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She cares about your relationship with your mom because it is a reflection of how ultimately may be towards her once you both get settled and advance your relationship with your girlfriend. Also, she probably values family closeness as important for the person she is looking to be in a relationship with. She is hoping you can be that person.
^^I agree! And the g/f is presenting as a very mature individual who doesn't waste time looking through rose-colored glasses.
She's a reflection on how you treat family. That's a pretty big deal.
Since she's family I should kiss the ground she walks upon? I don't owe her anything. How do I even mistreat her, I don;t bother her. I haven;t talked to her in years and have no idea where she lives. My life has gotten much better without her.
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Since she's family I should kiss the ground she walks upon? I don't owe her anything. How do I even mistreat her, I don;t bother her. I haven;t talked to her in years and have no idea where she lives. My life has gotten much better without her.
Did I say you should kiss the ground she walks on? No.
But don't pretend or expect your relationships to occur in a bubble. They do not.
I find these types of situations interesting. Why is it that the status of a man's relationship with his mother always used as a litmus to how he will treat other women. Yet how women treat their father is never usually even brought up. If a woman were to say to me that she is not close with her father, I would not question her and/or pressure her to have some type of relationship with her father. I would just assume she has good reason for that and leave it at that. She is an adult and her relationship with her father has no bearing on me. Why can't women just accept this from men? To the OP, I would break it off with her and move on. This is likely just a preview of things to come, she more than likely would try to control other aspects of your relationship. Cut the cord and move on.
I find these types of situations interesting. Why is it that the status of a man's relationship with his mother always used as a litmus to how he will treat other women. Yet how women treat their father is never usually even brought up. If a woman were to say to me that she is not close with her father, I would not question her and/or pressure her to have some type of relationship with her father. I would just assume she has good reason for that and leave it at that. She is an adult and her relationship with her father has no bearing on me. Why can't women just accept this from men? To the OP, I would break it off with her and move on. This is likely just a preview of things to come, she more than likely would try to control other aspects of your relationship. Cut the cord and move on.
Because fathers often are absent from their kids' lives. This may be the case less than it used to be, but mothers are still the primary parent in kids' lives when the kids are small.
Because fathers often are absent from their kids' lives. This may be the case less than it used to be, but mothers are still the primary parent in kids' lives when the kids are small.
Sorry, that's a lame excuse. Even if parents are divorced, more often than not the father still has visitation. Again I say this should not matter. If a person says that are not close with their mother/father I assume there is a very good reason for that and I do not question it.
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