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because you (ultimately) don't meet her ideal family structure and she is thinking about what's to come of her relationship.
She is testing your character as well as showing how mismatched you both are for future life goals in the process.
If she is at the point of ultimatums and you are dead set on never entertaining anything to do with anything, the relationship is already starting down a path to nowhere good.
Like it or lump it ...a mismatch is a mismatch regardless of how well you get along in other areas.
I find these types of situations interesting. Why is it that the status of a man's relationship with his mother always used as a litmus to how he will treat other women. Yet how women treat their father is never usually even brought up. If a woman were to say to me that she is not close with her father, I would not question her and/or pressure her to have some type of relationship with her father. I would just assume she has good reason for that and leave it at that. She is an adult and her relationship with her father has no bearing on me. Why can't women just accept this from men? To the OP, I would break it off with her and move on. This is likely just a preview of things to come, she more than likely would try to control other aspects of your relationship. Cut the cord and move on.
Seriously? AFAIK, women with daddy issues are the same type of potential liability as guys with mommy issues.
If I'm considering getting serious with someone, or especially marrying them, it does concern me. How they related to everyone, from family and friends, to the waiter/waitress, concerns me. It should.
Agreed. I for one, wouldn't want to be with a sociopath. He treats me ok, even great, but treats everyone else like trash. That's not a divine character trait, and I couldn't look at someone who mistreats and runs over other people without care, and think "Wow, they're so sexy and great."
Not someone I would want to settle down with, eventually, they'll turn some of their sociopath behavior toward me.
I find these types of situations interesting. Why is it that the status of a man's relationship with his mother always used as a litmus to how he will treat other women. Yet how women treat their father is never usually even brought up. If a woman were to say to me that she is not close with her father, I would not question her and/or pressure her to have some type of relationship with her father. I would just assume she has good reason for that and leave it at that. She is an adult and her relationship with her father has no bearing on me. Why can't women just accept this from men? To the OP, I would break it off with her and move on. This is likely just a preview of things to come, she more than likely would try to control other aspects of your relationship. Cut the cord and move on.
If you don't ask, then you are foolish.
I ask (or observe).
But women tend to have higher standards than men (about job, friends, education, intelligence, etc).
Not a far leap to how they interact with family.
Most men tend only to care how a woman acts towards him and makes him feel.
I admitted to this girl I've been seeing for three months that I no longer talk to my mom. I didn't elaborate aside from saying that we had disagreements about some things. I also told her I no longer harbored any animosity towards her, I just have nothing to say to her. My girlfriend is now demanding that I repair my relationship with her or she'll leave. My two questions are why does she care and what should I do?
Dude, people do get to move on. Everyone deserves happiness. Just because someone had the misfortune of their spouse dying doesn't mean they have to go through the rest of their life without love. Why would you wish that on someone? Or was there no mourning period? Why do I get the feeling there's more to this story than the OP is telling us?
Why do I get the feeling OP has been here before?
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