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Somehow this got derailed in recent threads from from initiating to approaching. It's not an approach, but a woman displaying non-verbal clues of interest is initiating, and many men are able to pick up on that and from there, approach her. But it started with her showing signals of interest.
Exactly!
I don't know why some men here are so obsessed with this idea. I do know why they don't get dates, though.
Did anyone ever say a smile was an approach? Talking to someone is an approach, and it's not gender-specific activity. Someone mentioned "orbiting" as something women do. Whether they thought that was "approaching" or just signaling, I don't know.
(The things you learn on this forum! I though orbiting was something planets and satellites do, but ok, women do it, too. )
Did anyone ever say a smile was an approach? Talking to someone is an approach, and it's not gender-specific activity. Someone mentioned "orbiting" as something women do. Whether they thought that was "approaching" or just signaling, I don't know.
(The things you learn on this forum! I though orbiting was something planets and satellites do, but ok, women do it, too. )
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Originally Posted by Auraliea
I don't understand it either Nila. Seems like there is no point in trying to convince and talk to them other wise. Seems like their ways are set.
Trying to prove other wise by making statements isn't going to get us anywhere unfortunately. *sigh*
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Exactly!
I don't know why some men here are so obsessed with this idea. I do know why they don't get dates, though.
1. Since there is a consensus in the polls that smiling and looking at someone is NOT an approach,
2. Can we all agree that women rarely, if ever, approach men?
Since after all, we all agreed that smiling/looking at someone is NOT an approach.
3. Since we agree on #2, that women RARELY approach men; can we all agree that women RARELY get rejected since after all, they rarely APPROACH?
When my friend and I are out, and we catch guys staring at us, I usually just keep walking (I get uncomfortable) she will actually wave and say hey.
From this and other posts I can tell you have a problem with men. Your friend on the other hand seems like a nice and friendly girl.
Regarding the original question, it all depends on the context and the situation. Some people are just genuinely nice and just because they smile it doesn't mean anything more than they're being friendly, but other times it's an obvious invitation for the other person to come over and talk. There are lots of nuances in human communication, it's not all black and white.
I don't know why some men here are so obsessed with this idea. I do know why they don't get dates, though.
They don't get dates because when women smiled and they approached they got rejected and if this happens enough a smile isn't going to mean anything to those guys. This happened to me and I said I will let women approach from now on that was four years ago so I moved on.
1. Since there is a consensus in the polls that smiling and looking at someone is not an approach,
2. Can we all agree that women rarely, if ever, approach men?
Since after all, we all agreed that smiling/looking at someone is not an approach.
3. Since we agree on #2, that women rarely approach men; can we all agree that women rarely get rejected since after all, they rarely approach?
This is basic abc logic here.
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