Is traditional dating outdated and online dating the new best way to meet people? (wife, men)
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But it only works up to that point: the meeting.
From that point on it's still all and only about spending time together.
Exactly. Once you meet, it does not matter how you met...the process that follows is exactly the same.
Online dating sites are nothing more than an additional venue that allows you to widen your selection of prospective dating options. That is all. It works for many of us, for others, not so much. You only get out of it what you put into it, just like anything else in life.
Online dating can be fun and dissapointing just like traditional.
But online dating gives you the opportunity to meet someone that you never knew before.
That can be said of most things you do when you walk out the front door. Waiting for the bus, going to the store, waiting in the doc's office, going to class, going to lunch, hanging at the coffee shop, getting gas, waiting for the light to change when you cross the street, you name it.
That can be said of most things you do when you walk out the front door.
Not really. The difference being the filtering of the OLD process.
You're handed rather extensive portfolio's on a wide variety of people ALL OF WHOM have said
they are interested in forming some sort of relationship and revealed all manner of personal detail
about how they conduct themselves in relationship and what they hope to achieve by participating
in some future relationship. The older we are the more there is to reveal in all this.
This is a VERY different set of circumstances than than chatting up the person in line with you
at the bookstore or the dry cleaners or even sitting on the bus next to you for 10 minutes.
In the vernacular of the movies... it allows us to "cut to the chase" in all of that.
And why when we agree to meet someone from this OLD milieu why more import and
expectation is attached to it than with someone you CAN'T know more about in advance.
For most OLD users this is a distinct advantage, or at least it is for those inclined to find a
relationship vs just idly and randomly dating whoever might cross our paths with who knows what
as THEIR intentions beyond that weeks movie or latest menu revision at the corner bistro.
That can be said of most things you do when you walk out the front door. Waiting for the bus, going to the store, waiting in the doc's office, going to class, going to lunch, hanging at the coffee shop, getting gas, waiting for the light to change when you cross the street, you name it.
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Originally Posted by ChessieMom
Do you usually know people before you met them?
I am referIng to people in your circle of friends, people you interact with, set up dates, friend of a friend,not someone from Brazil, Tenn., Cali..ect.
I am referIng to people in your circle of friends, people you interact with, set up dates, friend of a friend,not someone from Brazil, Tenn., Cali..ect.
In other words, you have a chance to meet people that you otherwise would not......not those that you "haven't met before". Right?
I was hoping I knew what you meant, but you sure worded it strangely.
What we consider traditional dating is actually only about seventy years or so old. People didn't date like they did in the 50s in the 1800s, or the 1400s, or any time before that (not counting the time before monogamy became the norm in the species). Most matches were arranged with a practical view to increasing one or both families socio-economic status. Interestingly enough, the richer and more powerful the families were, the more restricted the marriages would be.
What we consider traditional dating is actually only about seventy years or so old. People didn't date like they did in the 50s in the 1800s, or the 1400s, or any time before that (not counting the time before monogamy became the norm in the species). Most matches were arranged with a practical view to increasing one or both families socio-economic status. Interestingly enough, the richer and more powerful the families were, the more restricted the marriages would be.
Interesting point. Some form of "dating" did exist, even in the 1800's. The gentleman would call on the lady (who lived with her parents, being unmarried), and they'd spend the evening chatting in the parlor. One or both of the parents would be present the whole time. I discovered this when doing a family genealogy, and reading about a historical figure in the family.
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