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I'm AMAZED by the number of people that aren't kissing on the first date. The concept of not doing so seems so ridiculous to me, I can barely imagine it. It's an instant write off in my mind; whether justified or not, I'd write her off as a prude and move on. I know that's not the most civil way to go about it, but if we went on a date and she wasn't open to a peck on the lips, we're going to have problems down the road anyway. There wouldn't be a second date, which is probably just as good for her as it is for me.
When I was doing OLD, I had 5-10 first dates per week for several months. That would be quite a lot of kissing strangers.
Of course, what you and other regulars here know about me is that I am at the extreme end of the sex-positive and high-sex-drive spectrums, and that I have been repeatedly suspended from the forum (that sounds so kinky) for being too comfortable with sexuality.
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But if I like her, I'm kissing her. If she's not ok with that, next.
I predict that your mind will be blown by the awesomeness of sex with someone who is an enthusiastic participant, not just 'letting you have sex on her' if you make room in your life for such a relationship. But that would mean waiting until she wants the kiss, and is not simply tolerating it.
Dude are you effing kidding me? No kissing the first few dates? Kissing first date, groping second date, score third date, and we can totally move this all up to the first date if needed. Some VERY prude people in this thread, or maybe I am in a different part of the country?
Calm down.
Not everyone goes by this "schedule". Let people go about dating how they want....and you can do the same. I don't see a problem with how they approach dating.
When I was doing OLD, I had 5-10 first dates per week for several months.
1) How about first "meets"?
2) That's way way too many... you need to discriminate more in the set up.
Meeting five new people in a month is a LOT. That's a fresh newbie every day.
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...I am at the extreme end of the sex-positive and high-sex-drive spectrums...
Regardless. That 5-10 per week is more like like sex addiction than sex positive.
What is y'all's experience? If there is no kiss do you think that is a bad sign?
If I'm really into the guy, I'll let him kiss me. But if I'm on the fence about him at all, I'll just peck him on the cheek when I say good night and that's that. There was one guy who got very fussy about that, and he never heard from me again.
It's important to me that I conduct my dating life in the way that works for you, not for me
I agree
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I just said I did not kiss them...
Just saying hello to one newbie a day is too much to keep track of.
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Whether it applies to you or not...
the whole point of for the OLD approach is to filter out all the also-ran's
before agreeing to take time to meet the few who have real potential.
If you were doing even a token amount of that filtering...
how many more could you have seen each month?
Just saying hello to one newbie a day is too much to keep track of.
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Whether it applies to you or not...
the whole point of for the OLD approach is to filter out all the also-ran's
before agreeing to take time to meet the few who have real potential.
If you were doing even a token amount of that filtering...
how many more could you have seen each month?
I filtered out most of them in email. The one a day were the 1% that had potential.
Two a day, that was too many for me.
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