Kissing on the first date? (boyfriend, men, friend, feelings)

[rbohm]

Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut

Hey now, lets not call hard working women hookers

would you prefer, prostitutes, call girls, escorts, ladies of the evening instead?

[hawaiiancoconut]

Originally Posted by rbohm

would you prefer, prostitutes, call girls, escorts, ladies of the evening instead?

I consider them female entrepreneurs =)

[TabulaRasa]

It's entirely situational, and depends on the quality of the date and level of attraction.

[GravityMan]

For me, it depends on a lot of variables. Thus I prefer not to have any hard rules on this, aside from "don't force it". I think it's unwise to get overly logical about this. Just dynamically assess the situation as well as your own feelings and go for the kiss once the timing "feels right". That may be on the 1st date, the 4th date, whatever. Ideally the act itself and almost everything leading up to that point would unfold organically.

The degree of mutual chemistry, did we know each other prior to dating, how we connected, the vibe of the venue, how touchy-feely one or both people are around others in general, etc...all can influence how long it takes to get intimate with each other.

This is one area where it's important that you be able to properly read the other person's verbal and nonverbal social cues.

[ngroh]

Originally Posted by NilaJones

I filtered out most of them in email. The one a day were the 1% that had potential.

Two a day, that was too many for me.

You sure aren't helping women who attest that they have it as difficult as guys in the dating world. Not a guy in the world of OLD would have this opportunity (if a guy is out there who could meet a woman a day from OLD, let me know).

[NilaJones]

Originally Posted by ngroh

You sure aren't helping women who attest that they have it as difficult as guys in the dating world. Not a guy in the world of OLD would have this opportunity (if a guy is out there who could meet a woman a day from OLD, let me know).

And yet, none of them turned out to be worth keeping.

[Idon'tdateyou]

Online, no I wouldn't even if I felt chemistry. I did kiss Taco Man on our first date (no tongue)but it was a brushing. However we knew each other for a while.

[pdizo916]

I don't kiss on the first date; it' just my rule. I remember recently where this girl leaned in for a kiss and I gave her a hug instead. And after our third date, she was the one who wanted to kiss and do "other stuff." I wasn't playing a game; I am just very conservative by nature.

[redguard57]

I never have. Ever. 3rd at the earliest and usually 5th or 6th, which is typically a good 3-6 weeks after first meeting.

Some more forward women will straight up ask if I don't like something about them, or whether or not I'm even attracted.

But usually I do that because they really, really want to kiss (and often do more) at that point, so delaying it makes it better.

[Magnatomicflux]

I can't.

Making someone weak at the knees before I even really know them only spells trouble if they are the stalker type.