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Argh. 43north87west is right. Many of you are being stupid.Shyness and introversion are NOT mental illnesses!!! They are normal personality traits.
By the logic of some of you, any time you have a "dry spell" you must immediately rush to the psychiatrist to have your brain chemistry altered because the only possible cause is mental illness.
The original poster is discouraged from looking for someone because of bad experiences in the past. It is normal to be discouraged after a bad experience. Combine that with probably being unattractive (if he was attractive people would eventually approach him) and you get prolonged virginity.
Argh. 43north87west is right. Many of you are being stupid.Shyness and introversion are NOT mental illnesses!!! They are normal personality traits.
By the logic of some of you, any time you have a "dry spell" you must immediately rush to the psychiatrist to have your brain chemistry altered because the only possible cause is mental illness.
The original poster is discouraged from looking for someone because of bad experiences in the past. It is normal to be discouraged after a bad experience. Combine that with probably being unattractive (if he was attractive people would eventually approach him) and you get prolonged virginity.
For Christ's sake! It is not mental illness!!
Shyness and introversion are not the same. Neither are mental illnesses, however shyness is NOT a normal personality trait.
From wikipedia: Shyness (also called diffidence) is the feeling of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person is in proximity to other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low self-esteem.
I expect that small children can be shy, but adults who are shy do have something "wrong", for lack of a better term.
Shyness is the awkwardness or apprehension some people feel when approaching or being approached by other people. Unlike introverts, who feel energized by time alone, shy people often desperately want to connect with others, but don't know how or can't tolerate the anxiety that comes with human interaction.
Anxiety is a mental condition no? Therefore, introversion/shyness/anxiety is not normal. This is like those people who are like "big is beautiful." Which all does is encourage obesity. Obesity is not normal/beautiful, neither are mental illnesses.
Location: "Silicon Valley" (part of San Francisco Bay Area, California, USA)
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Anxiety is a mental condition no?
No, anxiety is an emotion. You might feel anxious about what grade you are going to get on a test, for example, or how your girlfriend will react to being asked if she will marry you.
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Therefore, introversion/shyness/anxiety is not normal.
It may be uncommon in some areas but it is not abnormal in the sense that you suggest or indicative of some kind of mental disorder.
Here in silicon valley,a lot of the software and network engineers are introverted. So it isn't even uncommon around here.
Ok I guess we will split hairs here, but "extreme" anxiety is for sure not normal, and a mental condition. (We are of course talking about the posters on the board who constantly ***** about available women and introvertedness)
On my planet, Earth, many people are shy and they function normally.
It depends on what you mean by functioning normally. If a shy person wants to create relationships, romantic or otherwise, with other people, but is afraid to put themselves out there, to be vulnerable, to be possibly turned down, if their anxiety keeps them from leaving their comfort zone, is that functioning normally? Is that a healthy way to live?
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