Aging, sexless marriage, unrequited love.....

[mysticaltyger]

Originally Posted by gypsychic

KimKim, interesting you ask that. I actually HAVE wondered that. My husband is a handsome, large kind of "macho" type of guy. As I may have mentioned in one of my posts, right from the get-go he had intimacy issues - did not want to kiss AT ALL, no cuddling, sex almost had to be porn-style if it happened at all - a real turn-off for me. Anyway, over the years he seems to attract many gay men; and I always wondered about that. But he seems completely horrified over the idea and gets REALLY upset if I bring up any of these from the past. So, I would say if there are actually any tendencies he has them well suppressed and stored away. I do not believe he has had any male lovers ever. At this point, I don't really think he is gay, either, although I would have to say one never knows for sure.

Thank you for your kind words about not letting others diminish my feelings. I knew when I posted this thread that there would be those who only wish to criticize or be cruel - they have no idea who I am or what I have gone through in my life. I chose to post because I knew I would not be the only one in this situation, and I find it helpful to share experiences and let others know they are not alone. Sometimes just discussing things, even on an anonymous forum such as this can be almost as good as professional therapy - even better because it is free.

Thanks again, for everyone's thoughts and well-wishes.

Although one can't know for sure, what you've posted actually makes me think he might be gay. The biggest homophobes are often gay. The more macho guys can more easily pass for straight and therefore are more likely to stay in the closet their whole lives.