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I strongly believe the problem with this world is that we treat EVERYTHING like is "none of your business".
If a friend of yours is getting wasted a word of advice given one time and one time only...is not so improper, specially if you consider him or her A FRIEND.
I speak my mind often...that's my thing. If a total stranger gets wasted anywhere...I wouldn't say anything....
But somebody whom I care well, I dunno, I think we are all going to be judged by a superior entity for the "good that we didn't do" and often that involves telling people the truth they don't want to hear.
If that cost you a friendship...so be it. I think that's better than to live an "hypocrital" friendship.
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I strongly believe the problem with this world is that we treat EVERYTHING like is "none of your business".
A much bigger problem is people butting into other people's business.
There is a time and place, such as if said drunk person was about to get behind the wheel of a car. And no, her health is in no way, shape or form the same thing.
A much bigger problem is people butting into other people's business.
There is a time and place, such as if said drunk person was about to get behind the wheel of a car. And no, her health is in no way, shape or form the same thing.
It's the same thing for a friend that smokes. You know it's bad for your health. You mention that one time and one time only.
If you care (read that carefully) about that person...you are entitled to let them know. If you appreciate them you HAVE to tell them how you feel.
If they don't want to listen...fine! You did what you can.
But you are meeting this girl for the 2nd time. She is not your friend, at best, an acquaintance.
She's home, she's safe... this could be a once a year thing. She's not doing anything wrong, and their is nothing for you to comment on.
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But you are meeting this girl for the 2nd time. She is not your friend, at best, an acquaintance.
She's home, she's safe... this could be a once a year thing. She's not doing anything wrong, and their is nothing for you to comment on.
Yeah, I don't get the concept of going out with someone twice, then thinking it's ok to tell them what to do. If you don't like what they do, stop going out with them. Easy.
I strongly believe the problem with this world is that we treat EVERYTHING like is "none of your business".
If a friend of yours is getting wasted a word of advice given one time and one time only...is not so improper, specially if you consider him or her A FRIEND.
I speak my mind often...that's my thing. If a total stranger gets wasted anywhere...I wouldn't say anything....
Somebody you've met up with with twice is closer to a total stranger than a friend, though. That's barely a casual acquaintance. I don't see myself commenting on casual acquaintance's life choices, personally.
That said, I also wouldn't see myself continuing to develop a relationship with an acquaintances who, in my few interactions with her, has shown this type of behavior 100% of the time.
I strongly believe the problem with this world is that we treat EVERYTHING like is "none of your business".
If a friend of yours is getting wasted a word of advice given one time and one time only...is not so improper, specially if you consider him or her A FRIEND.
I speak my mind often...that's my thing. If a total stranger gets wasted anywhere...I wouldn't say anything....
But somebody whom I care well, I dunno, I think we are all going to be judged by a superior entity for the "good that we didn't do" and often that involves telling people the truth they don't want to hear.
If that cost you a friendship...so be it. I think that's better than to live an "hypocrital" friendship.
Friendship is about loving the person for who they are, not telling them to drop certain habits because you deem it as bad behavior. THAT is what being a hypocrite is. Either you are their friend, or you aren't. If you feel it necessary to tell people that what they are doing is whatever you think...then expect to not have as many friends.
Friendship is about loving the person for who they are, not telling them to drop certain habits because you deem it as bad behavior. THAT is what being a hypocrite is. Either you are their friend, or you aren't. If you feel it necessary to tell people that what they are doing is whatever you think...then expect to not have as many friends.
In the recent case I got it...we are not friends, just acquaintances I agree.
On the second case, we know each other for quite a while. 20 years or so to be precise.
I think a hypocrite is the one who knows you are doing something wrong and not tell you about it. And even calls yourself a friend.
Hey if I'm doing something leading to my destruction, I wish a friend had the guts to tell me that.
The easy way out is not often the "right way".
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