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My girlfriend of 4 years left me about 3 months ago, and I live in the worst city to find love (NYC). I just feel so inadequate and low at the moment. I wanted to marry her one day and start a family, now I have to be alone while she's off enjoying her life. I hate being 25, everyone wants to hook up and have sex and all I want is to have a meaningful relationship with someone who shares the same values as me.
Btw I am talking to a therapist and I see him every week so please spare me the "go see a therapist" talk.
Every time I look out the window and see this city I just feel disgusted at the fact that this is where I come from. I share nothing in common with these people, they're just here screw everything that walks.
I feel so pathetic for messing it up with my previous girlfriend. I shouldn't of been so controlling and paranoid, now I'm saying the ultimate price. I can't stop beating myself up, I can't stop hating myself, I messed up the greatest thing that ever walked into my life. Now I have to settle for the scrap that 20 other guys left out here, it feels so awful.
I can't leave, I don't want to leave my mother alone since she has nobody here. I'm not leaving and I won't leave. However, I feel so miserable, I miss my ex so much. I feel like I'm never going to find anyone better than her, I'm going to be alone forever.
I had to write this somewhere, I'm having a rough day.
My girlfriend of 4 years left me about 3 months ago, and I live in the worst city to find love (NYC). I just feel so inadequate and low at the moment. I wanted to marry her one day and start a family, now I have to be alone while she's off enjoying her life. I hate being 25, everyone wants to hook up and have sex and all I want is to have a meaningful relationship with someone who shares the same values as me.
Btw I am talking to a therapist and I see him every week so please spare me the "go see a therapist" talk.
Every time I look out the window and see this city I just feel disgusted at the fact that this is where I come from. I share nothing in common with these people, they're just here screw everything that walks.
I feel so pathetic for messing it up with my previous girlfriend. I shouldn't of been so controlling and paranoid, now I'm saying the ultimate price. I can't stop beating myself up, I can't stop hating myself, I messed up the greatest thing that ever walked into my life. Now I have to settle for the scrap that 20 other guys left out here, it feels so awful.
I can't leave, I don't want to leave my mother alone since she has nobody here. I'm not leaving and I won't leave. However, I feel so miserable, I miss my ex so much. I feel like I'm never going to find anyone better than her, I'm going to be alone forever.
I had to write this somewhere, I'm having a rough day.
It's really hard sometimes. Keep up with the therapy. Find someplace to volunteer so you can get out of your own head for a while and think about others.
I thought NYC was the best city to find love, in the US, anyway. ...?
BTW, how did you mess up? At least, learn from your mistakes.
Lol I don't know who told you that lie, it's actually one of the worst places to find love.
I pushed her away, it doesn't matter she's gone now.
I am learning. I pay the price every time I wake up in the morning.The relationship was a life and I killed it. I can't prepare myself for another realtionship because I may never have anything remotely close to what I had ever again. It's the most painful experience I've ever had to go through. Maybe I just don't deserve nice people or nice things.
Lol I don't know who told you that lie, it's actually one of the worst places to find love.
I pushed her away, it doesn't matter she's gone now.
I am learning. I pay the price every time I wake up in the morning.The relationship was a life and I killed it. I can't prepare myself for another realtionship because I may never have anything remotely close to what I had ever again. It's the most painful experience I've ever had to go through. Maybe I just don't deserve nice people or nice things.
I'm a girl and I lived in NYC when I was 23- I also didn't like the hook-up culture, I wanted a relationship, but I found it extremely hard to find. But see- I was there, I wanted a man who's serious about me. You want a girl who's serious about you. These people do exist, even in NYC. I have friends in NYC who met in the city, fell in love and are still together. Don't be so negative, only because your last relationship ended doesn't mean you won't find love again. Give it some time, live your life, be positive and stop overthinking things. You're so young anyways, you have all the time in the world.
My girlfriend of 4 years left me about 3 months ago, and I live in the worst city to find love (NYC). I just feel so inadequate and low at the moment. I wanted to marry her one day and start a family, now I have to be alone while she's off enjoying her life. I hate being 25, everyone wants to hook up and have sex and all I want is to have a meaningful relationship with someone who shares the same values as me.
Plenty of people are looking for a committed relationship at 25. Heck, I got married at 24. Maybe you're just looking in the wrong places.
You say you have to be alone while she's off enjoying her life but that sounds like part of your problem is you're putting too much self worth on being in a relationship. Find some hobbies, go out with friends, learn a new skill... do something for yourself, do something to better yourself and you'll feel better about yourself. Find happiness on your own, and finding happiness with someone else will follow.
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I feel so pathetic for messing it up with my previous girlfriend. I shouldn't of been so controlling and paranoid, now I'm saying the ultimate price. I can't stop beating myself up, I can't stop hating myself, I messed up the greatest thing that ever walked into my life. Now I have to settle for the scrap that 20 other guys left out here, it feels so awful.
So learn from it. Look, I know it's easier said than done but you have a choice here - you can either continue wallowing in your misery and feeling sorry for yourself, or you can pick yourself up, learn from your mistakes, and move forward. You are the master of your own happiness and believe it or not, you can choose to be happy.
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I can't leave, I don't want to leave my mother alone since she has nobody here. I'm not leaving and I won't leave. However, I feel so miserable, I miss my ex so much. I feel like I'm never going to find anyone better than her, I'm going to be alone forever.
I had to write this somewhere, I'm having a rough day.
I'm sorry you're having a bad day and I hope tomorrow is better. And I'm sorry you feel stuck in a city you hate, that will make finding happiness more difficult for you. But the only thing really stopping yourself from moving on from this and finding happiness is yourself.
Are you saying most of the women in New York are scraps?
I'm afraid so.
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