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When women are 18-30 they don't have a problem with men's preference to date younger. Freshman girls dated seniors. College bound girls liked to date guys that finished college and have money coming in instead of broke college students. Young women that finished college prefer to date men that have moved up the ladder or hold prestigious professional positions. Women are hypergamous and prefer to date men that are >= to them in status and success; men know this since about high school.
It isn't until women get 35+ that they start having an issue with men wanting to date younger because they are no longer the beneficiaries of male dating behavior. Women look for status and success, men look for youth and beauty. This is male behavior and it will never change.
In regards to what you have to offer it just shows to me that you don't understand male thinking. What attracts a man to a woman isn't the same as what attracts a woman to a man. You are looking at this from a woman's POV and don't know how men think.
Experience? I guess you are talking about life experience here? A lot of sexual experience is a turn off. Life experience is meh, not really an asset. Women like a worldly experienced man, men don't value it nearly as much in a woman.
House and Car. Again meh. I understand that a woman would see that as a bonus for a man to have his own house and a nice car, but the same is not true for men. Having a car these days is pretty standard, its a negative if you don't have a car but standard if you do. If you have a really nice car that's nice too but its not the same for men. You always hear that a nice truck or a super nice car is a vagina magnet but you don't hear them being penis magnets.
Career. Men don't really care what you do for a living or how much you make. We know that women do though.
2 kids. This is NOT something you have to offer. If anything it is a man deterrent and a big one at that.
Confidence. Women are attracted to confidence, for men its not nearly as important. A serious lack of confidence is a turn off for men but a confident woman isn't necessarily a turn on.
I'll speak in general on male wants and desires so this is a generalization and there are always exceptions. This is what men in general are attracted to and want:
What she looks like. Everyone knows physical attraction is important to men
Affection, loving, warmth. It is how she makes us feel when we are around her. If she makes us feel like a $M and like a man she is a keeper.
Fertility for any men that want to have kids. Their own kids, not someone elses kids.
Long hair
Height weight proportionate.
Not crazy
Not stupid
Part of your friends problem is she meets successful men on a regular basis. Successful men can probably do better and younger then her. A woman's best years to find a good man is 25-30, she is well past that. She is competing with women that are 10-20 years younger then her and it doesn't sound like she is doing well in that competition.
I wouldn't trade my youth for the wisdom I have gained.
We all age.
But what of those who have grown aged, without having become wise?
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... But as they get older,(35+) and they their beauty starts to fade and and all their friends are married, and their biological clock starts ticking and they start getting desperate, then that's when men start to have all the advantages in dating. And older man, who looks decent, and who has a decent job, and his own place and no kids becomes the cream of the crop and he has his choices of women his age AND younger chicks.
If "all their friends are married", then presumably these women are in a small minority. And if the number of such remaining women is small, how is it that the remaining men "have all the advantages"? Many older men look "decent", with jobs of no mean decency, and decency alike in attributes of personage and position. What of it?
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Men get judged by what kind of job his has, or how much money he has or would he be a good provider. Women get judged on their looks. That's just the way it is.
This simple world of pat and clear quantification, where all are ranked and incontrovertibly aligned, and each from each array is paired with exact counterpart from the other… where is this world? Show it to me. I yearn to inhabit it.
Instead, there is no simple mark or scheme. Some offer much, and yet are arrantly neglected. Others thrive. The cause?
Lol, don't matter, when you got that kind of bread a woman can easily be replaced. And looking at somebody like Derek Jeter's resume, I don't see how going from Minka Kelly to Hannah Davis is a bad thing.
Yea I like guys just for their physical appearance and it ends up crashing burning badly.
I have a question for the older ladies. Do you find that men your age appreciate what you have to offer or are they mostly going for younger women?
That's an interesting question. I often wondered, when I was young, why all the girls my age only wanted to date older guys?
I know the answer, now. I also know the answer to your question. Its simple, really, in both cases. Both men and women look out for themselves, generally.
I bucked the trend, though, and married a gal 4 years my senior... that was 30 years ago and we're still together and happy.
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Exactly. They want an easy life and they can't handle being challenged.
Yes, yes, they do. Men by and large don't want to be "challenged" by their women. They get that every day their entire lives esp. at work. They want to come home to a sanctuary of acceptance, and nurturing, and warmth and reception.
I wouldn't cry, that's apart of the game. Men get judged by what kind of job his has, or how much money he has or would he be a good provider. Women get judged on their looks. That's just the way it is.
lol yeah back in 1960 maybe. Plenty of women with decent jobs they don't need a man to support them. This thread is cracking me up with all the generalizations. Please someone make it stop. I can date older women that make more money than me easily because I have the looks and the personality.
Not all women want some controlling fat slob just because he has money/social status.
How am I being ageist? I said that men my own age aren't interested in me. If I was to go with a man older than me, wouldn't that make him (and me) ageist?
What do you want me to tell you? If men your age aren't interested in you, what are your options? You can complain some more or forget about age and find men who are attracted to you regardless of your relative ages.
Your chances of finding a suitable partner are better if you are open to dating older men.
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And looking at somebody like Derek Jeter's resume, I don't see how going from Minka Kelly to Hannah Davis is a bad thing.
Both men and women look out for themselves, generally. 
What do you want me to tell you? If men your age aren't interested in you, what are your options? You can complain some more or forget about age and find men who are attracted to you regardless of your relative ages.