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So you get that jealous before you are even involved with someone? Oh my. That's not good. You are setting yourself up for a lifetime of pain.
I have always been the jealous type. There are books for it, there are therapists which can help (same sex therapist highly recommended, btw). It has alot to do with us having self esteem issues. If we are feeling really good about who we are, and not trying to impress or "get" a man and try to control him so much, we're okay.
Now, if you are with someone, romantically involved with that is, and he is openly flirting, touching and coming onto another woman or women, that's a different story. Run for the hills if that happens.
I find that people tend to be in the "talking" phase with multiple people. I kind get why, but it makes me so uncomfortable. I like to be the "apple of someone's eye" and I get pretty jealous. I'm not ashamed to admit. Jealousy is a normal and perfectly human reaction, a flaw we all have little to no control over.
Myself personally, when I'm "talking" to someone I'm pretty exclusive about it. Once I'm smitten, my eyes only see but one person, and I couldn't even dare dream of breathing near another man. I'm too cheesy for words.
I was once talking to a guy, and when I found out I wasn't the only girl he was talking to, I got so angry and upset. I've decided that if I have to compete, I have already lost. The idea that i was just a fish grouped with other fish, his affection was the bait, and he was the fisherman waiting for one of us to bite.
Don't you "talk" to males ?
Socialization is what its called. I am jealous but I put limits on it if my SO is "talking" to other girls I won't get upset about he socializing I would get upset if he is taking the talking to flirting.
Because they can, honestly. It's not against the rules and that jealousy is really unattractive. Better you disqualify yourself before he drops you, I guess.
You simply cannot own some elses time or attention before you know if you even trust one another. And it is wise not to settle on someone right off any more than you would purchase the first item you lay eyes on. This stuff takes time.
The talking phase as in the getting to know you phase.
You know you're not really official, but you're on that path of being a possible romantic partner.
I just don't want to feel like an option.
You may not want to feel like it, but you are only an option.
At least you will out yourself as crazy pretty quickly.
Of course we want to someone to be absolutely smitten with the wonderful being that we are, but you've got to give him a chance to know you before he feels that way.
I think you will find that extreme jealousy is a turn-off to both genders. If you know you are all that and a bag of chips, you won't care if he is talking to other women, you know you will come out as the one he likes.
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I find that people tend to be in the "talking" phase with multiple people. I kind get why, but it makes me so uncomfortable. I like to be the "apple of someone's eye" and I get pretty jealous. I'm not ashamed to admit. Jealousy is a normal and perfectly human reaction, a flaw we all have little to no control over.
Myself personally, when I'm "talking" to someone I'm pretty exclusive about it. Once I'm smitten, my eyes only see but one person, and I couldn't even dare dream of breathing near another man. I'm too cheesy for words.
I was once talking to a guy, and when I found out I wasn't the only girl he was talking to, I got so angry and upset. I've decided that if I have to compete, I have already lost. The idea that i was just a fish grouped with other fish, his affection was the bait, and he was the fisherman waiting for one of us to bite.
So if I am reading this correctly if you are smitten with someone but not yet dating, exclusive, engaged or married he is not supposed to talk to other women?
My goodness what is going to happen when you are actually in a real relationship?
Clingy, jealous, needy and possessive are not traits to be proud of and you may be swimming in the
"Pond of Single" for a very long time if you continue this behavior.
I find that people tend to be in the "talking" phase with multiple people. I kind get why, but it makes me so uncomfortable. I like to be the "apple of someone's eye" and I get pretty jealous. I'm not ashamed to admit. Jealousy is a normal and perfectly human reaction, a flaw we all have little to no control over.
Myself personally, when I'm "talking" to someone I'm pretty exclusive about it. Once I'm smitten, my eyes only see but one person, and I couldn't even dare dream of breathing near another man. I'm too cheesy for words.
I was once talking to a guy, and when I found out I wasn't the only girl he was talking to, I got so angry and upset. I've decided that if I have to compete, I have already lost. The idea that i was just a fish grouped with other fish, his affection was the bait, and he was the fisherman waiting for one of us to bite.
He is not your type, nothing good will come of this, it will all end in tears.......
I am a one person at a time dater also, even in the talking phase. to get to know someone its only fare to judge them on their own merits, not in comparison to 3 or 4 other people. I am always up front about that from day one. if he already met you and feels he has to go out with a few other girls before he makes up his mind, he is not that into you.
Because "talking" is the primary means by which human beings communicate with one another.
What's your confusion here?
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