Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Yeah, that's pretty bad. I have found men do tend to think I'm younger than I am. When I was in my teens, my darling step-mother convinced me that the only way to "cure" acne was to pick at it - after all, she'd had bad acne just like me and look how flawless her skin is, which it was.
Sucks when you get bad advice like that. I also got bad advice when I was younger. And that one instance was enough to make me see it was bad. There was a guy in one of my classes who liked me, it seemed. But I received the advice that I should play hard to get, because guys hate easy. So I tried that, and it did nothing, but possibly make him lose interest. Though the person who gave the advice insist he was just too young to know better, and that it really works.
Quote:
I've always felt the scars are a large part of why men don't find me attractive. Some days I look in the mirror and that's all I see. I'm finally doing research into getting them lightened or removed - I've always been afraid to in the past out of fear something would go wrong and they'd get worse. Of course, removing the physical scars won't remove the psychological scars of having such a "loving parent."
I wish you luck. Hopefully you can get your issue corrected. It is always annoying, and upsetting when you look in a mirror and see what you consider to be a flaw - scars, a big nose, crooked teeth, big ears, etc. But it's good you're looking at fixing them. There's probably some good things you can do. it's mainly about trying to find who you feel are the best specialists, and doctors, which can sometimes be a crap-shot.
With me, it's the nose, which I feel is too big. And my eyes, as I have Esotropia. But corrective surgery was going to be very risky, and I am already legally blind, so taking the risk purely for vanity seemed asinine. So I just settled for paying 500+ dollars for glasses. 1 pair I wear for vision. The other is a tinted pair to hide my eyes. The later I usually wear when I go anywhere - don't leave home without them now. So that's part of my new style now.
Unrelated to looks, it's also hard not to be single when you keep having guys say they want to meet up and when you respond with when you are free to do so, you never hear from them again! (Or they email you a couple of hours after you set up the date to tell you they decided to go camping instead). Or they just plain stand you up. That's my current trend.
That happens to everybody. I have super pretty single gfs and they experience the same. After I heard their stories, I didn't feel so bad about my own dating experience anyomore.
I just turned 36 and I do not have any dating/sex experiences. I am single because no guys have ever asked me on dates. I never knew how to get them to so I basically don't worry about it anymore. I was trying to get male friends instead but that hasn't worked out either. I also have autism.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
26,700 posts, read 41,748,461 times
Reputation: 41381
After some honest thinking, one thing that contributes to my dating troubles is the fact I didn't know I would be attractive to some people. I asked one girl out in 8th grade and got clowned without mercy. That scarred me from dating all through college. I mean no one ever asked me out so I figured I wasn't attractive to anyone. I woke up at 24 and I was actually getting messaged back in OLD so it took me all that time to figure that some girls actually like me. Now my problem is getting girls who are actually attractive to like me.
because i want to have absolutely nothing to do with modern american women. I'm getting to the age when the first wave of used up slop slags start coming out of the wood work. You know the type. The ones that chased bad boys, abusers, losers, and got knocked up in their 20's and are now are getting a little desperate to find a well-adjusted, gainfully employed dude to take care of them. Not i!
After some honest thinking, one thing that contributes to my dating troubles is the fact I didn't know I would be attractive to some people. I asked one girl out in 8th grade and clowned forever. That scarred me from dating all through college. I mean no one ever asked me out so I figured I wasn't attractive to anyone. I woke up at 24 and I was actually getting messaged back in OLD so it took me all that time to figure that some girls actually like me. Now my problem is getting girls who are actually attractive to like me.
The first sentence is a very good point mate
And yeah I think it's cost us all somewhere down the line
I'm a resolved single. I'm too selfish and unable to compromise enough for a relationship. I've been in 2 relationships in my life and both were wonderful experiences. I loved the companionship of a relationship and having someone to do stuff with every now and then, but I feel more comfortable alone and have never had any interest in anything serious. I knew at a young age that marriage wasn't for me. I think most people see someone long-term with the idea that it might eventually progress, but my relationships never went anywhere because I wouldn't let them. So I decided it was unfair for me to get involved in a relationship with a woman when I have no intention (and am really incapable) of a serious relationship. That just leads to hurt feelings and disappointment.
Truth be told, I'm extremely unfortunate looking and don't have a lot going for me, so I probably would've been single anyway even without the "resolved single" declaration. However, making a choice to be permanently single definitely helps the ego. I've rejected myself from the dating pool, so no one has to reject me. To me, it sounds a lot better to say that I don't want a relationship than I can't get a girlfriend.
I feel the same way, I do not want kids, Marriage or Co-Habitation, I have known this from an early age and as I approach 30 this year I still feel the same, I would not be against a serious relationship provided the girl feels the same regarding those same three principles as me.
After some honest thinking, one thing that contributes to my dating troubles is the fact I didn't know I would be attractive to some people. I asked one girl out in 8th grade and got clowned without mercy. That scarred me from dating all through college. I mean no one ever asked me out so I figured I wasn't attractive to anyone. I woke up at 24 and I was actually getting messaged back in OLD so it took me all that time to figure that some girls actually like me. Now my problem is getting girls who are actually attractive to like me.
For me, if I could stay single and do me, then I would happily do it. Right now I'm dealing with someone and we are getting close. The worst part is that she is somehow going to be the end of me.
I know I already answered this at least once, but my reason keeps changing, so here's the current reason: I just haven't met anyone that would add anything more or positive into my life. Right now I can pretty much take care of myself. I make good money so there are no issues there. I have a son and we do fun things together on the weekends and we hang out with friends and family, so I'm not actually lonely. On my alone time, I just go to the gym to improve my overall strength, health and body.
When I met someone, he seemed to only be needing a woman to do all the "slavery" stuff such as cooking, cleaning, and helping him pay the bills. No thanks. Been there, done that. Don't get me wrong, I would do these things for the man I love, but this man showed me red flags right away and had nothing else to offer me. I don't want to fix or raise anyone. If you're not a man by now, you'll never be one. So tired of that. Just thinking of him makes me wish I can unmeet some people.
I want true companionship. Someone to enlighten me. Give me something new. Challenge me. I don't want to be your maid, cook or sex slave. Household chores should be shared and a man shouldn't expect his woman to pick up after him. Just like it's natural for a man to protect his woman and family, it's natural for a woman to take care of hers, BUT you have to love her. I am not going to do those things if you don't deserve my love.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
I also got bad advice when I was younger. And that one instance was enough to make me see it was bad. There was a guy in one of my classes who liked me, it seemed. But I received the advice that I should play hard to get, because guys hate easy. So I tried that, and it did nothing, but possibly make him lose interest. Though the person who gave the advice insist he was just too young to know better, and that it really works. 
