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So you wouldn't trust your girlfriend with a male life coach or therapist? Would you trust her with a male doctor? Would you let her have male friends?
This whole thing seems so absurd to me. You either trust someone or you don't. If you don't trust them, you shouldn't be with them. If you don't trust women as a whole - you shouldn't be in a relationship.
This is why women in some Middle Eastern countries are restricted in what type of work environment they can participate in, if they're allowed to work at all. If they own a shop, in Saudi Arabia they're only allowed to receive male clients if they stand behind a screen, so the customer can't see them. If they want to be teachers, they're only allowed to teach girls. If they want to practice medicine, they can only have female clients. And so on.
It's not that the women can't be trusted; it's that their husbands can't trust the other guys. It seems that the OP doesn't trust his gf's life coach to refrain from putting the moves on the gf. I'm sensing that it's more of a male turf thing, and how his gf feels about it or relates to the situation is irrelevant to the OP.
Guys i've been in many relationships, been cheated, married, divorced... Anyway i have experience in relationships but after everything i've been through i confess that it's not easy to trust women anymore. People say "so don't be in a relationship", i just can't run from them!
Guys i've been in many relationships, been cheated, married, divorced... Anyway i have experience in relationships but after everything i've been through i confess that it's not easy to trust women anymore. People say "so don't be in a relationship", i just can't run from them!
Since you seem to pick women who cheat, this might be a concern in this case. Not because women as a whole tend to cheat, but because you tend to pick women like this.
Guys i've been in many relationships, been cheated, married, divorced... Anyway i have experience in relationships but after everything i've been through i confess that it's not easy to trust women anymore. People say "so don't be in a relationship", i just can't run from them!
If that's the case, your other option is to get counseling to resolve your trust issues. It sounds like you haven't recovered from your past experiences, in which case your fears are understandable. But it's not fair to lump your gf in with all the bad experiences you've had, and not see her as an individual, and (I assume) --trustworthy.
OP, wouldn't you feel better if you had someone to talk to about the accumulation of upsetting experiences you've had in the past? Get it off your chest, and get some professional help in healing from all that, and getting a healthier perspective over it. Google around to see who in your area deals with past relationship issues. Was there any abandonment, emotional or otherwise, in the family when you were small? If so, that would definitely relate to all this, too.
So you wouldn't trust your girlfriend with a male life coach or therapist? Would you trust her with a male doctor? Would you let her have male friends?
This whole thing seems so absurd to me. You either trust someone or you don't. If you don't trust them, you shouldn't be with them. If you don't trust women as a whole - you shouldn't be in a relationship.
a male Doctor is treating the physical. The "life coach" is treating the mental/emotional..
If you don't see the difference, than I'm not going to bother explaining it.
Guys i've been in many relationships, been cheated, married, divorced... Anyway i have experience in relationships but after everything i've been through i confess that it's not easy to trust women anymore. People say "so don't be in a relationship", i just can't run from them!
If you want the relationship to work, you are going to have to talk to your girlfriend about this. If she loves you and feels the relationship is worth it - she'll work through it with you. BUT - when I say talk about it - I don't mean accuse your girlfriend of cheating or tell her that you don't trust her. I mean - tell her that you have trust issues and you are insecure. Tell her that you've been cheated on before and so you are scared. So far, you say that she's been honest with you. Well, be honest with her, too.
Guys i've been in many relationships, been cheated, married, divorced... Anyway i have experience in relationships but after everything i've been through i confess that it's not easy to trust women anymore. People say "so don't be in a relationship", i just can't run from them!
This is not about your insecurity. It is about a reality. Kudos you don't have your head stuck in the sand in wonderland.
People are creatures of opportunity. Women connect with their emotions and how they "feel". Another man quarterbacking her getting her life back in order..
I think you have a reason to be concerned.
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