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You can't accept that people live lives that are different from each other? That some people like to go out more than others do? That some of us who live alone are extroverts and enjoy the frequent company of other people?
Nothing about this is particularly "amazing" or anything to be envious of. Except for maybe the slacker neckbeards and social misfits who have zero human relationships to compare to.
You're missing the point entirely, but that point has gone off topic, so it really doesn't matter.
Reread the entire thread, it's not so much just one thing such as dating multiple people, its the dating multiple people working 60 hrs a week going out 5 to 7 nights a week staying out til 2, and then spinning it like that's the norm across the board, when everyone is clearing saying that is not the norm, most educated professionals with lots of responsibilities and over 35 aren't living that lifestyle, he's clinging on to it like its the norm.. if he simple said it was the norm for him and his social circle and not the cultural norm across the board he wouldn't be getting this much grief, at least from me anyways..
You can't accept that people live lives that are different from each other? That some people like to go out more than others do? That some of us who live alone are extroverts and enjoy the frequent company of other people?
Nothing about this is particularly "amazing" or anything to be envious of. Except for maybe the slacker neckbeards and social misfits who have zero human relationships to compare to.
Exactly. I live a pretty basic urban single person life. Go see some bands. Have some dates. Work. Have my hobbies. Save a bit of money to travel occasionally. Etc. Nothing out of the ordinary at all.
I'm not even an extrovert. This is all pretty normal stuff.
Yes it is. That people imagine you are bragging about some exotic improbable life is just astounding to me.
To me, it's completely bizarre to go away with someone for several days and assume that because there hasn't been explicit "exclusivity talk", it's normal to go out with another person the day after.
I can understand if both people are on the same page as to the casual nature of the relationship. However IMO, if someone wants to continue to play the field, they should be up front about it. That, to me, is the "norm".
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Reread the entire thread, it's not so much just one thing such as dating multiple people, its the dating multiple people working 60 hrs a week going out 5 to 7 nights a week staying out til 2, and then spinning it like that's the norm across the board, when everyone is clearing saying that is not the norm, most educated professions like lots of responsibilities and over 35 aren't living that lifestyle, he's clinging on to it like its the norm.. if he simple said it was the norm for him and his social circle and not the cultural norm across the board he wouldn't be getting this much grief, at least from me anyways..
I never said it was the norm for me. Please don't make things up.
I said it was the norm for the people I worked with in the tech start up community and many, if not most, of my friends. I said having worked at an incubator/accelerator, that this type of lifestyle seems pretty common in the tech start up community. It sure seemed that way in SF, and it does in Boston. And where I live, a large portion of the people work in tech, often start ups.
But hey, people are reading not what I wrote, but what they want to read.
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Yes it is. That people imagine you are bragging about some exotic improbable life is just astounding to me.
My life is pretty dull actually. I'd love to fit more travel in. And not the travel for training crap that I have coming up.
No one believes that you have this little online life that you've painted for yourself, nor do they care. You're just mad because people finally called you out on it.
Not sure why people have made this thread about one person whose lifestyle and experience, TBH, is not all that uncommon. He'd educated, single, lives in an urban area, and over 40. What he describes is pretty standard among people who share his demographics from what I can see. That's my dating pool, actually, and if I were out there dating, I would go about it the same way.
I do think there are differences between urban and suburban or rural settings in terms of dating. The suburban life and its dating culture are not for me. If it is for other people, great. But it's not my thing, and that's okay. It doesn't make me elitist. It just makes me happier in the environment that's right for me, which is a flaming liberal city known for a population that is highly educated, well-traveled, careerist, and sometimes a bit schmoozy and boozy. Your tax dollars, hard at work!
Yes I think there is some apple/oranges arguments playing out here. I take offense that timberline is being accused of lying about his own lifestyle and experiences, which I find entirely believable and reflected by people in my own circle.
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Not sure why people have made this thread about one person whose lifestyle and experience, TBH, is not all that uncommon. He'd educated, single, lives in an urban area, and over 40. What he describes is pretty standard among people who share his demographics from what I can see. That's my dating pool, actually, and if I were out there dating, I would go about it the same way.
I do think there are differences between urban and suburban or rural settings in terms of dating. The suburban life and its dating culture are not for me. If it is for other people, great. But it's not my thing, and that's okay. It doesn't make me elitist. It just makes me happier in the environment that's right for me, which is a flaming liberal city known for a population that is highly educated, well-traveled, careerist, and sometimes a bit schmoozy and boozy. Your tax dollars, hard at work!
Seriously. You get it.
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Yes I think there is some apple/oranges arguments playing out here. I take offense that timberline is being accused of lying about his own lifestyle and experiences, which I find entirely believable and reflected by people in my own circle.
My offense is that people are saying I said I do XYZ and calling me a liar about it, when I actually never said I do XYZ at all. That's just loony.
I never said it was the norm for me. Please don't make things up.
I didn't say you, I explicitly didn't mention your name, but you did mention people you 'know' and what you said such about 60 workweek hours and going out 5 nights a week and you came back and said some you know do it 7 times a week.
So no... I not making up things, I just recited what you wrote, never said you I said what you wrote.
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