Why are men made to feel ashamed concerning escorts? (American, college, straight)
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Which is why it's probably not wise for a man to be honest about it, even if asked. Such things might be relationship suicide.
I suspect that more men frequent or have frequented escorts than they are willing to let on. There are a lot of escort ads out there, trust me. I do not see why so many would be out there if a significant enough of the population wasn't buying. Just saying.
P.S.
Dealing with escorts may not always be about sex, even if that appears to be the main reason for many or even most clientele.
You can lie, but if it ever comes out you have caused even more damage.
I try to live my life in a way that makes me not have to lie. If I do something, I am honest and upfront, even if I may lose that person.
Don't play games, don't lie.
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Which is why it's probably not wise for a man to be honest about it, even if asked. Such things might be relationship suicide.
I suspect that more men frequent or have frequented escorts than they are willing to let on. There are a lot of escort ads out there, trust me. I do not see why so many would be out there if a significant enough of the population wasn't buying. Just saying.
P.S.
Dealing with escorts may not always be about sex, even if that appears to be the main reason for many or even most clientele.
You did what you did....why lie about it?
Own up to your actions and who are as a person.
Lies only cause problems. That's one of the problems with society.
Might, might not. Personally, I value those I have relationships too much to lie to them about stuff.
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In many parts of the world visiting working girls ins't a problem, its actually embraced, or at least not demonized..
I can't help but to feel a bit confused...... be feel a little bit stigmatized... not for the typical reasons, but for ego reasons, my ego can't help but to feel little a little sad.... it's sad to me, sad that I had to pay a woman, a woman couldn't be with me unless I paid for her time, how lame am I if I can't get a woman to simply hang out with me... I have to pay her, she doesn't want anyting to do with me unless I hand over some cash
How lame is that, I mean when you lay it out and really think about it... a woman wouldn't be with me unless I paid her money........ she wouldn't be wilth me unless I paid her money.....
Think about that when you're pounding your chest about how macho you are.... she wouldn't be there unless you paid her.....
Let that resonate with our local chest thumpers a bit.....
Chow... Not everyone wants to get involved. Some guys are busy and don't have time for the relationship thing or don't want it to begin with. They may have other priorities. They can call a service, get er done and get back to business.
I just have the idea that it's not really diseases that concern you since, as someone pointed out, people can be tested. I think that you may just think it gross and unclean in general. Fair enough. That being said, would it be more tolerable if you knew a guy was a "player" before he met you and had probably been with a good number of women sexually before you?
If I knew a guy was a player, I wouldn't waste my time with him for numerous reasons, including the concern of diseases. Maybe if I had a disease I would lower my standards, but until then, no thank you.
I have many male friends and we discuss these type of issues all the time. Generally speaking, most women, not all, but most women, can have sex anytime they want. Sex for women is more of a desire than a need, and therefore we can be very fickle about sex.
Sex for men, as I understand it, tends to be more of a need, a release. So for the guys who don't have much luck with the ladies, I get it. I can certainly see where a man could feel frustrated enough at some point that an Escort Service becomes a feasible option. An option that just so happens to have a horrible stigma attached to it. Most women, for various reasons, are going to have a problem with a man that uses prostitutes. Especially if the man uses prostitutes on a regular basis. It is what it is.
My male friends that have been with a prostitute, have decided, as far as I know, not to tell their SO, and it's a secret I keep for them. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, It's just not my business.
Regarding whether to lie or not in a dating situation....
I personally don't think there is a wrong/right answer. It simply depends on the people involved. This is similar to the threads we have about whether or not one should disclose their sex past to any future spouse... it really just depends.
I have been around... so to speak. My wife was a virgin when we first met. You can understand that I would need to water things down for her.. she knows my past but she never made it an issue.
If I fell madly in love with someone and all their faults, I'm the type that is willing to give it a shot. Love isn't enough though... (learned first hand)
Chow... Not everyone wants to get involved. Some guys are busy and don't have time for the relationship thing or don't want it to begin with. They may have other priorities. They can call a service, get er done and get back to business.
We certainly have a few threads speaking to that fact.
For some... sex and emotion are wired tightly together.
For others it is not.
It is hard for one group to understand the other because that's simply how we are wired.
But wouldn't it make sense for people to want to be with people that are wired the same way?
Wouldn't finding a spouse be soo much easier if we all came with a spec sheet that had details of who we are and a compatibility chart?
Then again.... it might just make life boring.
Probably.... but I don't think it is a black and white thing.. I also know that sometimes you fall for someone you don't quite expect.
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