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OP says that as far as he knows, she doesn't have a credit card, though. It sounds like she must have one, either that, or her parents are sending her money regularly. The math just doesn't add up, otherwise. Especially when you factor in that she says she's putting $600/month in savings.
But yeah, your point that they're two very different people in some ways is what it boils down to. But also, if he had eventual marriage at the back of his mind, he should think twice, given her spending pattern.
OP says that as far as he knows, she doesn't have a credit card, though. It sounds like she must have one, either that, or her parents are sending her money regularly. The math just doesn't add up, otherwise.
The money can't add up, we don't know anything about her or her finances.
She may have a smaller mortgage, her car may be paid off....... she may freelance on the side. It doesn't even matter, she is certainly entitled to spend money how she wants, as is the OP.
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The money can't add up, we don't know anything about her or her finances.
She may have a smaller mortgage, her car may be paid off....... she may freelance on the side. It doesn't even matter, she is certainly entitled to spend money how she wants, as is the OP.
As a 20-something Coloradoan who also doesn't ski, I understand how you feel about the cost of that and other entertainment expenses. I'm Ms. Frugal...I'm the girl who will check for coupons and deals before I head to a restaurant. And I'm the girl who will happily offer up a coupon to a date if he insists on paying lol. I couldn't imagine spending that much money per week on having "fun"...but then again I'm like you in that I'm introverted and definitely lean towards the homebody side. A night in with friends or a date cooking a meal together and just talking or playing board games is my idea of fun. As are low cost things like fishing, hiking, and going to zoos/museums where I have a membership. I could not see myself with someone who lived a spendy lifestyle. Frugality and financial responsibility were ingrained in me growing up. I'm not saying your GF can't change, but honestly, it doesn't sound like she'd want to. It doesn't sound like you are compatible with her in that area...and that's a very important area to be compatible in for the long term...
As a 20-something Coloradoan who also doesn't ski, I understand how you feel about the cost of that and other entertainment expenses. I'm Ms. Frugal...I'm the girl who will check for coupons and deals before I head to a restaurant. And I'm the girl who will happily offer up a coupon to a date if he insists on paying lol. I couldn't imagine spending that much money per week on having "fun"...but then again I'm like you in that I'm introverted and definitely lean towards the homebody side. A night in with friends or a date cooking a meal together and just talking or playing board games is my idea of fun. As are low cost things like fishing, hiking, and going to zoos/museums where I have a membership. I could not see myself with someone who lived a spendy lifestyle. Frugality and financial responsibility were ingrained in me growing up. I'm not saying your GF can't change, but honestly, it doesn't sound like she'd want to. It doesn't sound like you are compatible with her in that area...and that's a very important area to be compatible in for the long term...
No it may not but then you will know. I am also a gambling wisher, I am excited for the economy to tank and interest rates to sky rocket, IF I can keep my job through it houses, goods and other services will be dirt cheap. As it is now even though I make good money the market is so artificially inflated I don't have much buying power anyways.
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Be careful what you wish for. But interest may not be relevant to her, if she doesn't have a credit card or any loans.
When we've talked about this before, she indicated that she's not, that she's fine with hanging out at home on the weekends. She has insisted in the past that she's totally comfortable not going out, staying in, eating in, watching Netflix.
However, I always feel like there's some other event that she wants me to go to on the weekends. Not to say that I don't also plan things, but I do feel like she's the one that initiates most of our social activities. I'm supposed to go to her tree decorating party at her place tonight, and quite honestly, I just want to go home, eat dinner, and chill out.
Face it - you're incompatible - she likes to socialize more and that frequently involves money you don't want to spend. You also sound a bit jealous in that you can't figure out how she's funding all this "fun". This is good stuff to figure out now - just don't fall into the trap of thinking one of you is better than the other because of your respective choices.
My husband and I did a lot of camping. So that was cheap. Plus I used to grill steak for dinner and that was cheap. I like garden and DIY activities that were also cheap. I believe we only had one fancy meal at a nice restaurant. I'm not into fancy restaurants, they do not impress me. But gardening and camping were my things.
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To cut costs maybe just tell her you need to start saving money and that you would prefer to do things at home like watch movies/TV and cook dinner together.
To be honest, until I'm I a relationship with someone I prefer going out, but once it's exclusive I prefer more dates at home than out.
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