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In the past, I just tell women if you aren't looking to date me don't me ask me that question. I haven't met the right woman and will not waste time with the wrong ones.
I always felt like there are better ways to break the ice so to speak, such as letting the conversation flow naturally, but to me, questions like that sound so rigid and awkward. Who taught people that that pick up line gets them a date???
Then you break the ice every single time then and you won't have issues- simple. You seem to think that you can and will be able to adjust the mindset of a guy that hasn't learned to date or talk to women according to how you want it. A lot of these men are picking up their lines from online geeks just as you are picking up your dates online. You see where I am going with this? You are expecting great line openers while online and passing judgment but do not understand that the reason many people are online is due to their own insecurities and laziness to meet people in the real world- hence 4 pages on what some may or may not consider "cliche". Again, see where I am going with this? So this translates to their approach online and also in the real world- again, 4 pages on a public forum, see what I mean?
So again, stop trying to figure out words and responses for possible cliche openers from men you meet ON LINE and concentrate on follow through/actions or go out in the real world. Not everyone will have your desired look as not everyone will have your desired opener but it doesn't mean there isn't any substance behind that.
Online dating can be just as bad as online daters coming into online forums asking why people online ask cliche questions. Then they pick up all these bad advices and cliche responses and bring them back to these online dating sites.
And we wonder what the heck is up with this "feedback loop" (A feedback loop is a term commonly used in economics to refer to a situation where part of the output of a situation is used for new input).
Then you break the ice every single time then and you won't have issues- simple. You seem to think that you can and will be able to adjust the mindset of a guy that hasn't learned to date or talk to women according to how you want it. A lot of these men are picking up their lines from online geeks just as you are picking up your dates online. You see where I am going with this? You are expecting great line openers while online and passing judgment but do not understand that the reason many people are online is due to their own insecurities and laziness to meet people in the real world- hence 4 pages on what some may or may not consider "cliche". Again, see where I am going with this? So this translates to their approach online and also in the real world- again, 4 pages on a public forum, see what I mean?
So again, stop trying to figure out words and responses for possible cliche openers from men you meet ON LINE and concentrate on follow through/actions or go out in the real world. Not everyone will have your desired look as not everyone will have your desired opener but it doesn't mean there isn't any substance behind that.
Oh, come on. "Why are you single" is an obnoxious, intrusive question, with an undercurrent of, "You seem nice but something must be wrong with you if you're not already taken." It's rude, and a stranger on a dating site has absolutely no business asking such a thing. What if someone divorced after an abusive marriage? What if someone was raped and had to go through 5 years of counseling before dating again? What if someone's spouse died, or was murdered?
Women--or men--don't have to make excuses for boorish questions, bad manners, and social ineptitude. If you want to play on OLD, you need to be at the top of your game, not the bottom and using it as a crutch because you can't handle an actual conversation in real time with another human being.
Then you break the ice every single time then and you won't have issues- simple. You seem to think that you can and will be able to adjust the mindset of a guy that hasn't learned to date or talk to women according to how you want it. A lot of these men are picking up their lines from online geeks just as you are picking up your dates online. You see where I am going with this? You are expecting great line openers while online and passing judgment but do not understand that the reason many people are online is due to their own insecurities and laziness to meet people in the real world- hence 4 pages on what some may or may not consider "cliche". Again, see where I am going with this? So this translates to their approach online and also in the real world- again, 4 pages on a public forum, see what I mean?
So again, stop trying to figure out words and responses for possible cliche openers from men you meet ON LINE and concentrate on follow through/actions or go out in the real world. Not everyone will have your desired look as not everyone will have your desired opener but it doesn't mean there isn't any substance behind that.
Hell, now that I think about it, it's not just OLD, it's in the "real world" too that that question is asked. I'm not trying to change/adjust the midset of a guy. It is obvious that my previous relationship didn't work, which is common sense doesn't suffice, which is why the question is posed in the first place. I am pretty sure he doesn't want to hear about WHY my relationship didn't work so early in the conversation, and if he did, I still wouldn't tell him because it is none of his business, since I don't know him and he doesn't know me. I have made strides, plenty of times to break the ice that wasn't "Why are you single"? and somehow it still leads to that question. The line is tired, point blank.
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