He's not ready to be my boyfriend. Should I give him more time?

[reneeh63]

Originally Posted by DefiantNJ

Or he might be a virgin and/or very inexperienced despite of what he says. If you are interested try to be a bit more open/aggressive yourself to encourage him. But if he draws back, you have your answer...

I was wondering about this - how does OP know he's not a virgin - strange conversation since he's moving so slowly with OP....or is she just assuming based on other things?

[cyn7cyn]

Originally Posted by madbach

Dump him and start dating other guys. If he really likes you then he will chase you. Some red flags here: For one, he is taking things super slow- after 3 months not trying to get past 1st base? Either he is gay or not attracted to you. 2

When guys are interested in a girl there isn't any doubt. We don't need to make up our minds, we want you from date one. And there is no such thing as too busy, only too busy for YOU.

Young women on here- always remember this: when a guy wants you he leaves no doubt about it. This guy is just hanging with you until someone "better" comes along. Move on.

This 100% !!!!!!!!!!!!! Nothing more cringeworthy then listening to women making excuses or celebrating crumbs when it comes to male attention.

Vice versa as well.

[Missy1114]

Originally Posted by reneeh63

I was wondering about this - how does OP know he's not a virgin - strange conversation since he's moving so slowly with OP....or is she just assuming based on other things?

One time I was joking around and asked if he has lost his virginity and he said he did back in undergrad.

[natiam]

I feel the same way as others. If a guy is into you, he will make time for you no matter how busy he is. I've dated a guy that traveled for work all the time and we still talked 24/7. Guy I'm dating now works 60 hr weeks, sometimes graveyard shifts, and we still talk a lot. Don't wait around for him.. go date others.

[GeoffD]

...or the guy has some huge pile of emotional baggage he's not talking about that makes him totally relationship and intimacy phobic. ...or the guy has the world's lowest testosterone level.

It kind of doesn't matter. Move on.