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Hello all! So the other night I went out with some people from work and they brought along a girl from the office that I never met. Very pretty, seemed interested in talking with me, and we spent the end part of the night chatting it up. She grabbed my phone and put her full name and number in it and said we should keep in contact.
I walked her to her train and we shared a hug before I left. I texted her before I got on my train to not be a stranger. She sent back a text that showed she was listening to me that night and basically she wouldn't be.
That was Friday night. I wanted to test the waters so I texted her Sunday if she was watching the Super Bowl at around 8. No response since that time.
Sooooo, should I text again? I don't want to seem creepy. I also don't know if she was just being friendly. Or maybe even was drunk and regrets giving me her number. I feel like she is out of my league. She is 8 years younger than me, very fit (I am not), and I have a child. If she isn't interested, no big deal. But I'm just totally daft when it comes to figuring out if girls are interested and how to proceed.
Hello all! So the other night I went out with some people from work and they brought along a girl from the office that I never met. Very pretty, seemed interested in talking with me, and we spent the end part of the night chatting it up. She grabbed my phone and put her full name and number in it and said we should keep in contact.
I walked her to her train and we shared a hug before I left. I texted her before I got on my train to not be a stranger. She sent back a text that showed she was listening to me that night and basically she wouldn't be.
That was Friday night. I wanted to test the waters so I texted her Sunday if she was watching the Super Bowl at around 8. No response since that time.
Sooooo, should I text again? I don't want to seem creepy. I also don't know if she was just being friendly. Or maybe even was drunk and regrets giving me her number. I feel like she is out of my league. She is 8 years younger than me, very fit (I am not), and I have a child. If she isn't interested, no big deal. But I'm just totally daft when it comes to figuring out if girls are interested and how to proceed.
Texting is for the socially incompetent. Seriously. And you likely turned her off by initiating the conversation with the equivalent of a "Whassup?" If you want to know where you stand, here's a novel idea: Pick up the phone and call her. In about fifteen seconds, you'll learn more from the nuance in her voice that you'll find out in umpteen dozen text messages back and forth.
Hello all! So the other night I went out with some people from work and they brought along a girl from the office that I never met. Very pretty, seemed interested in talking with me, and we spent the end part of the night chatting it up. She grabbed my phone and put her full name and number in it and said we should keep in contact.
I walked her to her train and we shared a hug before I left. I texted her before I got on my train to not be a stranger. She sent back a text that showed she was listening to me that night and basically she wouldn't be.
That was Friday night. I wanted to test the waters so I texted her Sunday if she was watching the Super Bowl at around 8. No response since that time.
Sooooo, should I text again? I don't want to seem creepy. I also don't know if she was just being friendly. Or maybe even was drunk and regrets giving me her number. I feel like she is out of my league. She is 8 years younger than me, very fit (I am not), and I have a child. If she isn't interested, no big deal. But I'm just totally daft when it comes to figuring out if girls are interested and how to proceed.
That´s a kind of "loser" attitude...not your type? out of your league? Ive seen beauty queens going out with Jabba the Hutt type of guys, and it´s not just only the money. There is the missconception about the "league" but that´s for another forum.
You are beating yourself down and that´s a reflection on your chats.
Ask her out damn it...call her instead of text and make an invitation...a simple one, going out for coffee after work or something like that. That way you test the waters, but you have to lose that negativity.
Well that attitude comes from a certain place. I'm working on fixing certain parts of myself that have gone astray.
As for the texting, its been my main form of contact for most of my relationships. I have also never really "dated" per se. I meet girls at work or school or one time online. So there isn't so much an actual date as just chatting online or by text or due to working together. I guess I'm not well versed in what it takes to date lol.
I also was in a relationship for 6 years, got out and started dating someone from work. So I'm a little rusty in regards to how it works.
Well that attitude comes from a certain place. I'm working on fixing certain parts of myself that have gone astray.
As for the texting, its been my main form of contact for most of my relationships. I have also never really "dated" per se. I meet girls at work or school or one time online. So there isn't so much an actual date as just chatting online or by text or due to working together. I guess I'm not well versed in what it takes to date lol.
I also was in a relationship for 6 years, got out and started dating someone from work. So I'm a little rusty in regards to how it works.
Well, you're older now. That means you need to behave that way. Uncertainty is the biggest turnoff there can possibly be.
If you're worried about what to say, just call her up and say, "Hey. Texting is weird an awkward. It was great meeting you the other night at the party and thought we could meet up for lunch or coffee. What say you?"
But say it with some confidence in yourself, not as if you were approaching the throne of a beautiful, yet fearsome fertility goddess who will smite you if you don't phrase things perfectly.
OP, do you and this woman work at the same office?
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