Sure Signs An Older Woman is Flirting With You and Why? (family, children)
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I coach after-school sports among the top 5% in a large cosmopolitan American city. One of the mother's of an athlete (hs senior) I have been coaching for two years and I have gotten to be friends. We see each other during and after games and we talk about school, grades, traffic, the presidential race, college admissions, climate change--the usual medley of modern American upper middle class life topics.
I like her a lot as a person. She's intelligent, funny and still cute at 46. I am 35, single/not dating seriously, very fit, straight, and not unattracted to older woman.
Said mother is noticeably friendly with me. Hands on my arms and shoulder when making a point, close-taking, the occasional stepping on my toe. These are not isolated instances. There have been a half dozen conversations like this at least.
Once she just dropped into conversation a casual "I like you." It didn't sound with any romantic intention though, just a statement of fact. I think I dumbly said "thanks" not really knowing what else to say.
She totally has her life--house, husband, Honda Passport, two kids in private high school. She works an insane amount. This is a family of strivers.
When I'm with her, my internal conversation is something like "Jesus, J--- can't actually be flirting with me this blatantly." The thought of having an affair is like so far beyond my comprehension. I can't even conceive of what the logistics would be.
Am I right in seeing this as flirting or is this just an older (perhaps sexually unhappy) mom who enjoys feeling like she still has some game?
Let it go. Even if she was this can't end well. There are too many other amazing, available single women to bother with this kind of drama.
She might be looking for a little side action. I personally would avoid having anything to do with her, her being married and also you're supposed to be a coach to the kids, not macking on the moms. Too much happening here to let it go any further.
I coach after-school sports among the top 5% in a large cosmopolitan American city. One of the mother's of an athlete (hs senior) I have been coaching for two years and I have gotten to be friends. We see each other during and after games and we talk about school, grades, traffic, the presidential race, college admissions, climate change--the usual medley of modern American upper middle class life topics.
I like her a lot as a person. She's intelligent, funny and still cute at 46. I am 35, single/not dating seriously, very fit, straight, and not unattracted to older woman.
Said mother is noticeably friendly with me. Hands on my arms and shoulder when making a point, close-taking, the occasional stepping on my toe. These are not isolated instances. There have been a half dozen conversations like this at least.
Once she just dropped into conversation a casual "I like you." It didn't sound with any romantic intention though, just a statement of fact. I think I dumbly said "thanks" not really knowing what else to say.
She totally has her life--house, husband, Honda Passport, two kids in private high school. She works an insane amount. This is a family of strivers.
When I'm with her, my internal conversation is something like "Jesus, J--- can't actually be flirting with me this blatantly." The thought of having an affair is like so far beyond my comprehension. I can't even conceive of what the logistics would be.
Am I right in seeing this as flirting or is this just an older (perhaps sexually unhappy) mom who enjoys feeling like she still has some game?
Leave taken women alone period because it can end badly.
Hm. Ex-cop current GC is scarier than say software engineer or chef, so.
There's that, if he found out. Police even ex police can make your life hell if mad at you.
If she gets all emotionally into you, she may give herself away at home.
I'm too risk aversive to take on that sort of spouse. Were he a corporate goon or dentist or somesuch the fear factor would be far less.
I'd want more data on hubs before moving forward. See how emotionally invested in him she is. She may adore him and he ignore HER, and she wants to make him jealous. That could be scary AF for you if that's her game.
Yes, much scarier than corporate goon or dentist.. He could crush me in the palm of his hand.
I think it is a case of her adoring him (or at least feeling beholden to him) and he ignoring her or just being so narcissistic that he can't connect. They married in college. I think they do love each other on some foundational level but whatever flame there was died long, long ago. I feel real bad for the kids.
So, ok, I think I get it. Her flirting with me is some temporary release from her pain of a stagnant marriage.
God, this kind of thing makes me NEVER want to get married.
Where the heck do you find the time to discuss climate change and politics before and after games?!? How do you two even get into topics like that? I could see college admissions, schooling and grades, but the other conversations baffle me.
And she drives a Honda Pilot. Doesn't that turn you off right there????
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