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It seems this way, except if you're under 35, or if you live in a place with good salaries and a below average costs of living. However, on the flip side, most men do not care if a woman doesn't have her own place, no matter what age.
Now if a man owns a house and rents rooms out, that's not a bad thing, seemingly, other than that, if a 35 or over man, doesn't have their own apartment or house yet, most Women out there judge that when it comes to dating.
This is one reason, why, I hope I'm wrong. Perhaps, some of these women, need to learn what's going on it a lot of major and popular, American Cities (look at the chart below)?
I don't see it getting better, before it gets worse, so let's be fairer to each other?
A guy may have a nice place and their own condo or house, but, if he's living paycheck or paycheck or worse, or working 60 hours or more a week, just to do so, how is that impressive in the female mind (even thought that shouldn't matter that much either)?
I know about the privacy thing and maybe having to work around romantic times, but, there's always hotels, if you're really that bent out of shape about it.
Last edited by beenhereandthere; 02-08-2016 at 12:20 PM..
Nope nope and nope. There is no excuse for being an adult lacking in independence and even an attempt to provide for and look after oneself. That's not functional adulthood.
Honestly, put me in this category. For men OR women. There are exceptions...temporary situations; for example, my ex-husband was 30 and moved back in with his parents for 6 months following his divorce while looking for an apartment in a safe locale for his son (he had sole custody). He had NO intention of staying in that situation and I have to be honest...if it had been a significantly longer period of time without action, say it had been a year or more and he was still with his parents, I wouldn't have been excusing it any more, not in small part because I too was a single parent and always managed to find a way to live independently. Independence is just part of my lifestyle and I couldn't see getting together with someone for whom it didn't mean much.
35 and living with parents...yeah...I mean...I just don't know.
It seems this way, except if you're under 35, or if you live in a place with good salaries and a below average costs of living. However, on the flip side, most men do not care if a woman doesn't have her own place, no matter what age.
Now if a man owns a house and rents rooms out, that's not a bad thing, seemingly, other than that, if a 35 or over man, doesn't have their own apartment or house yet, most Women out there judge that when it comes to dating.
This is one reason, why, I hope I'm wrong. Perhaps, some of these women, need to learn what's going on it a lot of major and popular, American Cities?
I don't see it getting better, before it gets worse, so let's be fairer to each other?
A guy may have a nice place and their own condo or house, but, if he's living paycheck or paycheck or worse, just to do so, how is that impressive in the female mind (even thought that shouldn't matter that much either)?
I know about the privacy thing and maybe having to work around romantic times, but, there's always hotels, if you're really that bent out of shape about it.
Because of traditional gender roles, which women use when it's convenient for them.
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Originally Posted by torontocheeka
Roommate okay but living with parents?
Nope nope and nope. There is no excuse for being an adult lacking in independence and even an attempt to provide for and look after oneself. That's not functional adulthood.
Not even sure if that shouldn't get a pass, but, it would depend, on if the person is living with their parents, since they give them part time care, or, do they have their own separate living space.
It seems this way, except if you're under 35, or if you live in a place with good salaries and a below average costs of living. However, on the flip side, most men do not care if a woman doesn't have her own place, no matter what age.
Now if a man owns a house and rents rooms out, that's not a bad thing, seemingly, other than that, if a 35 or over man, doesn't have their own apartment or house yet, most Women out there judge that when it comes to dating.
This is one reason, why, I hope I'm wrong. Perhaps, some of these women, need to learn what's going on it a lot of major and popular, American Cities?
I don't see it getting better, before it gets worse, so let's be fairer to each other?
A guy may have a nice place and their own condo or house, but, if he's living paycheck or paycheck or worse, just to do so, how is that impressive in the female mind (even thought that shouldn't matter that much either)?
I know about the privacy thing and maybe having to work around romantic times, but, there's always hotels, if you're really that bent out of shape about it.
Over 35 year old man or woman living with roommates is no problem, but still living at home is a big fat no.
Coming from a woman - women are attracted to men who have some level of ambition and some promise of being successful either currently or at least in the future because no woman wants to live her married life in her mother-in-law's basement. If by 35 years old a guy can't even support himself to the point of living independently of his parents, how is he going to be able to ever afford to support kids?
Even in an expensive city, most adults will live with multiple roommates rather than in mom's basement. Most well-adjusted adults have no interest in living under their parent's roof unless it's a dire emergency. Living with parents after 35 for either gender is a huge sign that that person is more of a child than an adult - and probably always will be.
Last edited by patches403; 02-08-2016 at 01:35 PM..
Women, men... no difference. An independent adult usually wants another independent adult to form a relationship with.
If you are not independent enough to live on your own, either better your circumstances before trying to find a partner or find a partner who also is not independent yet.
The percentage of adults aged 25 to 31 living with parents is a tiny 16%. So I imagine the number of people 35 and over is much smaller even.
Young women living at home with parents aren't as much of a social phenomenon as young men--because they are much more likely to NOT be living at home with parents. Imagine that, they are living in the same economy but the results are different for genders.
So yes, a guy living at home with parents at 35 is going get the side eye every time.
I wouldnt mind. I live with my mom and I dont think its a big deal. Its expensive to live out on your own. I would date a guy who lived at home. That doesn't sound to bad.
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