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Oh, dear. I know you were trying to be polite and/or a good hostess... but that is the opening scene for any one of a dozen or so porn films. The repair man/cable guy/delivery man is offered a cold beer by the lonely divorcee... bow chicka wow wow
Any time a guy says, "I'd be far too (fill in the blank) for you," listen to him. He's giving you a rare insight into who he really is and what you'd come to really dislike about him. Don't waste your time on these guys....
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Originally Posted by ChiGal7
If someone admits to being both needy and narcissistic then you're supposed to run as fast as possible in the opposite direction. ...
Not at all! The fellow in question could be using reverse-psychology. He could aim to disarm his interlocutor by self-effacing modesty. He could be uncorking some inflammatory comment to create tension and unbalance. Quite possibly, the more outrageous and nerve-wracking his claims, the more stable and well-established he may actually be. It's a test. Does the person to whom he's speaking recognize the irony and gallows-humor? Does she relish self-contradiction, simultaneous multiple meanings, subtle allusions? In effect, he could be investigating: are you an intelligent and imaginative person?
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I'm glad I'm not the poor guy that she is stringing along. He probably doesn't know his days are numbered lol
Not stringingbhim along. I would marry him tomorrow, if he would be willing to compromise more. I have asked him three different times, about seeing each other more and what would he be willing to allow, for me to come to him more.
Not stringingbhim along. I would marry him tomorrow, if he would be willing to compromise more. I have asked him three different times, about seeing each other more and what would he be willing to allow, for me to come to him more.
Wasn't he the one who wanted you to come to him, and you couldn't because of the dogs and kids?
I work on my house. I like riding motorcycles. ATVs. I know more about firearms than the average person. I like alcohol. I like old cars, but sold mine last summer and have not bought a new one to tinker with and take to shows. I like country and go to country bars frequently.
Wasn't he the one who wanted you to come to him, and you couldn't because of the dogs and kids?
Yup, which is why I have out the ball in his court. It's not that my dog and kids won't go to his house, it's that he has dogs that will fight my dog and no room for my kids. Everyone in our lives think the solution is for his kids and him to come to me, but since he is not willing to do that, than my crew can go to him.
I live in a five bedroom house, so every kid has their own room. Space is not an issue at my house.
The reality is, nobody really does. Just about everyone I know, even if they're not in a relationship, they have certain people orbiting them either for sex or something to do. No one is really ever completely alone, once they escape the path of college and/or building up their career path.
I never buy into anyone saying they're going to give dating a break for a while, I don't even buy into myself saying it. I may give up online dating, but I'm definitely interested in meeting someone in my day to day life/routine if it happens. I just don't think people are that closed off from other people, whether they're emotionally unhealthy or healthy. For most of us, our own company can get rather routine, boring, and quite frankly lonely.
When I'm single, I enjoy the attention of 2-3 different women. I'm not talking from a sexual standpoint, but just someone that I can grab a drink with, movie, dinner, bowling, etc. We all have busy schedules, so I tend to find myself rotating through different women to accommodate nights that I may be free.
Depends. Sometimes none, sometimes more. Just depends on where I go that week, and projects I am working on at home.
I wouldn't be surprised if alcohol is part of your problem in addition to your boundary issues. Speaking of boundary issues, for most women, the conversation would have ended at him being on parole. The fact that you see no issue with this shows how much you contribute to the issue of having messed up guys in your life.
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