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I wouldn't be surprised if alcohol is part of your problem in addition to your boundary issues. Speaking of boundary issues, for most women, the conversation would have ended at him being on parole. The fact that you see no issue with this shows how much you contribute to the issue of having messed up guys in your life.
Well I think I have been working on the same 30 pack of beer since January. The only time I Went to the liquor store in february was to buy a bottle of whiskey for my boyfriend, as a gift for Valentine's Day.
I will order a drink in a restaurant, if we are at one with alcohol.
If that's too much consumption for someone, than they have issues and we are not a match
anyway.
And I never said he was on parole. He was on probation. He never served time from what I gathered from his conversation.
Yup, which is why I have out the ball in his court. It's not that my dog and kids won't go to his house, it's that he has dogs that will fight my dog and no room for my kids. Everyone in our lives think the solution is for his kids and him to come to me, but since he is not willing to do that, than my crew can go to him.
I live in a five bedroom house, so every kid has their own room. Space is not an issue at my house.
This guy knows you are desperate to have a man and is using you. It is a shame you haven't figured that out yet. You are wasting your time. Very sad.
This guy knows you are desperate to have a man and is using you. It is a shame you haven't figured that out yet. You are wasting your time. Very sad.
I am not desperate. I could dump boyfriend today and let the ex begging to come "home" back in my life. I just want the right someone and not a body living with me.
Well I think I have been working on the same 30 pack of beer since January. The only time I Went to the liquor store in february was to buy a bottle of whiskey for my boyfriend, as a gift for Valentine's Day.
I will order a drink in a restaurant, if we are at one with alcohol.
If that's too much consumption for someone, than they have issues and we are not a match
anyway.
And I never said he was on parole. He was on probation. He never served time from what I gathered from his conversation.
The point is, you shouldn't know these personal details from a person who came to your home to quote a job. Your lack of boundaries is amazing.
The point is, you shouldn't know these personal details from a person who came to your home to quote a job. Your lack of boundaries is amazing.
I can be quietly sitting on a park bench, have a stranger sit down and I will know way too much about them in a very short period of time. Happens all the time. What do you just stand up and walk away?
And I never said he was on parole. He was on probation. He never served time from what I gathered from his conversation.
OK probation. Pretty much the same thing. Most women would've been pushing him out the door when they found that out. Once again, you don't seem to have an issue with this. Once again, this is you are screening somebody in when you should be screening them out.
Here's an example. Had to do a court ordered parenting class. "How to coparent". I sat all by myself in the far corner of the room, where I can see 180 around me.
Guy walks in and sat right next to me. We were sharing a pack of skittles within 5 minutes. I now know he was a cop, which is why we both chose to sit where we did, and married to a woman I went to school with. But that's how comfortable people are around me.
OK probation. Pretty much the same thing. Most women would've been pushing him out the door when they found that out. Once again, you don't seem to have an issue with this. Once again, this is you are screening somebody in when you should be screening them out.
It's not bad luck it's bad decision-making.
I was not looking to keep him...lol. It started as an interesting conversation of what we each have experienced dating locally.
I could have told you he was not for me, when he got out of his yuppy diesel Volkswagen. Dressed to the nines in a very metro attire. Me wearing steel toe boots, jeans with a camo hoodie.
So maybe I am a giant contradiction. Maybe I am looking at all the wrong guys. I know I don't want projects, they need to be stable and have their life together.
You said there were no other guys.
Just to repeat, there is nothing wrong with the guys you've chosen, it's something wrong with you.
Glad you're using an estimator instead of a counselor.
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Look at it from his perspective. Friendly, good-looking female customer offers him a beer on the job... first thing that runs through his head is "Oh man, she so wants to **** me!" But eventually it dawns on him that it's not going to happen, so he let's you down gently with flattery.
I really don't want to join in with the semi-daily "Kick LowonLuck while she's down" gamut, but I just find it baffling that a woman with that much experience with men (not necessarily sexually, but just in general) could be so lacking in self-awareness and how you are probably coming across.
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