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Why is this something they feel they must state and are they actually just the type of people who provoke drama from others?
It's like seeing "I am very mature for my age". Thanks. You can just demonstrate that as most folks don't need to advertise that because...it's not so mature looking.
I think it's basically a sign of lack of emotional attachment. Likes things clear and straightforward. Maybe the person has grown up in a drama-filled family or has had difficulty with drama in the past.
Or maybe they don't want drama b/c they want to be the star of the show (no other actors need apply)
These people know they attract drama like a moth to light. They put the anti-drama bit in their profiles thinking they can preemptively ward it off, but it doesn't work that way.
It's like when a girl puts in her profile to not contact her if all you want is sex or a booty call. There's a 100% chance that girl is DTF. She knows she can't say no to sex so she puts that in her profile thinking horny guys will see it and not email her. But the smart ones do anyway and get an easy lay out of it.
It's like seeing "I am very mature for my age". Thanks. You can just demonstrate that as most folks don't need to advertise that because...it's not so mature looking.
^^^This. I can't imagine being attracted to any profile that lists all the things they don't like, aren't looking for, or claim to be, rather than simply describing who they are as a person, what they like to do or are interested in. When all you have are photos and the written word, your profile needs to be appealing, not repelling. But hey, at least the self-proclaimed drama-free or mature ones are helping you weed them out.
Why is this something they feel they must state and are they actually just the type of people who provoke drama from others?
This.
Because intelligent, mature, and well-adjusted people very rarely encounter drama. When they do, they know how to a) extract themselves from it and b) avoid people who indulge in it.
Rule of thumb: If a person spends a lot of time mentioning what they WON'T do, what they DON'T like and what they DON'T want, you SHOULD NOT talk to them.
No drama usually means that they're only attracted to drama. This will usually be the person that likes talking on the phone and texting you but will be complete duds in person because you bore them.
Since it's just code for "unimportant stuff I don't want to hear about," it can be a sign of someone who sees others as emotional burdens. I think people who use that word a lot tend to be dismissive and think their own issues are important but other people's are tedious.
Can't disagree with that.
To be sure: yes, not many men have more than fleeting interest in that which does not matter. Unemotional, or at-minimum out-of-touch-with-our-feelings critters that most of us are. Most other people *are* emotional burdens, to many men.
Personally, I'm not dismissive so much as completely DIS-interested. The former is deliberately invalidating, the latter simply ambivalent. “No fear. No distractions. The ability to let that which does not matter truly slide.” Focussing relentlessly on the 20% of actions that lead to 80% of the return (Pareto Principle).
Of course, the same men who indicate the above (desiring less drama) and practice what they preach...keeping detached from some woman's constant drama to focus on more-important matters... will find themselves single again in a few months at-most. This, I am well aware of from personal experience. Understand your opponent (aka "partner"), guys and gals. Hate the game, not the playa.
It's like seeing "I am very mature for my age". Thanks. You can just demonstrate that as most folks don't need to advertise that because...it's not so mature looking.
Yeah, same reason when you hear "I'm a classy lady and need to be treated like one!!!" It's usually some chick with hair extensions, way too much makeup, talon nails and a voice like Fran Dresher smoked 3 packs a day... and lucite heels. /lol
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They're a red flag. Either the person courts drama knowingly or unknowingly, or s/he manages to wind up in situations with drama and I can expect the crazy ex-girlfriend to show up threatening to slash my tires.
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