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If they have such a big problem with it why don't they just lose the weight? I'm sorry, I just can't wrap my head around this. Probably because I've never had a weight issue before. Sorry if I sound unsympathetic, but it seems counter intuitive that if they think getting in the door with dating is all about the physical and they falsely represent themselves as they're not what they really look like in person, then they have failed. If you're going to care about the physical and be vain, why not actually do it and look good? I understand this is harder with age but elderly people can be beautiful too.
If they have such a big problem with it why don't they just lose the weight? I'm sorry, I just can't wrap my head around this. Probably because I've never had a weight issue before. Sorry if I sound unsympathetic, but it seems counter intuitive that if they think getting in the door with dating is all about the physical and they falsely represent themselves as they're not what they really look like in person, then they have failed. If you're going to care about the physical and be vain, why not actually do it and look good? I understand this is harder with age but elderly people can be beautiful too.
Because its not that easy to lose weight; you of all people should know this, LOl. I know, I would struggle just losing 5lbs.
If they have such a big problem with it why don't they just lose the weight? I'm sorry, I just can't wrap my head around this. Probably because I've never had a weight issue before. Sorry if I sound unsympathetic, but it seems counter intuitive that if they think getting in the door with dating is all about the physical and they falsely represent themselves as they're not what they really look like in person, then they have failed. If you're going to care about the physical and be vain, why not actually do it and look good? I understand this is harder with age but elderly people can be beautiful too.
Because the process of losing weight for most people is no fun, till it gets to a point to where you actually enjoy it, and that takes time. Most people tend to enjoy eating foods that are or aren't healthy for them. Food restriction and an uptick in exercise is going to be unpleasant till it becomes a routine.
Most people will say they want someone to just love them for them. Most people lose weight for two different reasons. They either want to attract the type of partner they're mentally attracted to, yet know that their physical appearance won't attract that person. Or it's a dire health issue and it's lose weight or die earlier than expected.
I know a few women who lost weight to strictly get a man they desired. Got the man they wanted and gained all the weight back and then some.
I've deleted my profile, but I actually got more profile views BEFORE I lost 25 lbs. Weight loss did not help my cause any; it just made me more invisible when it came to OLD, although I took before and after pictures in the same outfit and a couple of my closest friends couldn't tell which was "before" and which was "after."
I've deleted my profile, but I actually got more profile views BEFORE I lost 25 lbs. Weight loss did not help my cause any; it just made me more invisible when it came to OLD, although I took before and after pictures in the same outfit and a couple of my closest friends couldn't tell which was "before" and which was "after."
Yea we all want to look good online, we'll use pics of our good sides/angles/whatever, but I never understood why someone would use photos of themselves when they were much lighter. Do they think that if they can get the person to meet them, they might fall for their personality and not mind their weight? Are they just trying to get as many first dates as possible? It happened to me maybe once or twice, and it just annoyed me that they did that. I felt lied to and didn't want to see them again. Does anybody end up liking someone who did this to them? It feels like a waste of time for both parties.
Why does a kid hide his report card (do kids even carry grades home anymore?)? I think they stress over their appearance and for a few minutes reassure themselves by posting the more flattering, falsely so, picture. They have to know they'll be found out, but it feels good or at least less bad in the short term.
This happened to me, when i first met my girlfriend was by the tinder app. The first time i saw her in person i thought "Oh my GOd she's a little fat" but our first date was awesome and i felt very attracted and very into her! Looks is not everything!
I get that people want to remember a better version of themselves, and perhaps a better time, BUT you're representing yourself to someone else and you know you're misrepresenting if you're 300 lbs. and 55 but are putting up your 1996 pic at 185...Come now.
You know you're attempting to attract that person to someone else (the former you, not the current you). You're literally attempting to trick the person. And you're crossing your fingers that the person will either be struck blind, stupid or amnesiac between sending you a "wink" and your first date in person.
There's no way a person doesn't realize this, just none.
I get that people want to remember a better version of themselves, and perhaps a better time, BUT you're representing yourself to someone else and you know you're misrepresenting if you're 300 lbs. and 55 but are putting up your 1996 pic at 185...Come now.
You know you're attempting to attract that person to someone else (the former you, not the current you). You're literally attempting to trick the person. And you're crossing your fingers that the person will either be struck blind, stupid or amnesiac between sending you a "wink" and your first date in person.
There's no way a person doesn't realize this, just none.
It'd be funny if two people cat fished each other
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