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OP: DO NOT move in with your girlfriend, if you were truly *ready* your little voice would not be hounding you.
Stay where you are and see where the future takes you, slowly.
You will be using 1/4 of the utilities, kitchen, bath, living room, etc. 1/4 of the rent seems only right.
Many landlords require everyone living there to be on the lease. Don't overlook the "jointly and separately liable" part which means no matter who moves out, all of you can be held individually liable for rent and damages.
^^^ This situation is very unstable. Do yourself a favor and don't move in under those circumstances.
"Unstable" is the perfect word to describe this situation.
Don't do it, OP.
Let your GF know that you care about her and definitely want to keep things going with her but that you don't think this is the right living situation for you.
One bathroom for four people...no way!!! If the toilet backs up, or someone is sick and suddenly needs to get in there while another person is on the toilet or showering or soaking in the tub...or just your typical morning schedule of getting ready...that is going to be a nightmare.
Everyone living in a space should be on the lease. Otherwise you're leaving yourself totally vulnerable. And your family is right about the 33% split. You're sharing a bedroom with your gf. Those with their own single bedroom pay a little more. A 25% split is only fair with 4 people each having their own bedroom.
This!! ^^^^
Dude?! 3 girls?! 1 bathroom?! You will NEVER see that bathroom!
Dude?! 3 girls?! 1 bathroom?! You will NEVER see that bathroom!
I agree. That sounds horrible. If it were a 3 bedroom 2 bath, okay, but 1 bathroom?
Gross. I imagine clumps of hair everywhere, toiletries, foul smells, and having to get up three hours earlier to take a shower.
I think it sounds like a horrible idea, btw. Just wait until you've been together a bit longer!!
And instead of moving in with her and her friends, I think it would be better for it to just be you two... I mean this is partially projection, but I can't imagine how it will benefit your relationship to stay with her and two of her friends.... Just sounds like a disaster.
What about a 20, 20, 30, 30 % split? Not for the liability portion, but the rent? You WILL be sharing a bedroom. And point out to your girlfriend that jointly you and her would be paying 40% of the rent, while the friends only 30% each.
Another option for the lease itself is listing people as "occupants" without having them held liable for the rent. I did this with my then fiance on my previous lease before we were married.
I will say it is a really good idea that you are thinking this through so carefully and you and your girlfriend are able to have such open conversation about the financial aspects and implications. I was much more reckless about roommate and playing house when I was in college.
I'll try to not get my name on the lease, but still split rent 25%. That way I have an out if something happens down the line but for current time, everyone pays equally.
I'm just worried about putting my name on a lease and something happens to us or one of her friends decides to bail out.
Another possibility that is open is that I move in with my brother in an apt in or near the same city. That way I'm still moving out of my parents house, but living with someone I know I trust and is financially stable, and could visit the gf on weekends and other days.
We're talking about the apt tonight so I'll let you know what happens.
Another possibility that is open is that I move in with my brother in an apt in or near the same city. That way I'm still moving out of my parents house, but living with someone I know I trust and is financially stable, and could visit the gf on weekends and other days.
This sounds like a 1000% better option. If I was one of the 3 girls I would absolutely not agree to you moving in without your name on the lease and a guarantee that that you will pay 1/4 of the rent. (Actually if I was one of the non-girlfriends I wouldn't agree to any arrangement that had you moving in as a roommate, but that's not what you asked about)
This situation is just a problem waiting to happen.
If I was one of the 3 girls I would absolutely not agree to you moving in without your name on the lease and a guarantee that that you will pay 1/4 of the rent. (Actually if I was one of the non-girlfriends I wouldn't agree to any arrangement that had you moving in as a roommate, but that's not what you asked about)
Yeah, I was going to ask what the friends' opinions were on this situation. I know at that age I'd be a little wary of living with a couple (especially one that had only been dating for a few months.) And I know my parents probably wouldn't like it, either.
It's HER friends, why do you have to be on the lease??
I wouldn't do it.
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