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My boyfriend and I've been dating for almost 8 months and he's never given me any reason not to trust him but I can't help feeling jealous in this situation. We're living ~3 hrs away from each other this summer and it's the second weekend apart after being ~30 min away for our whole relationship so I miss him. Tonight one of his female friends came home for the weekend and the 2 of them are at a bar right now. I've never met her but my boyfriend tried to FaceTime with me when they were together to maybe introduce us. I thought that was nice, but I still feel so uneasy that they're together and I don't know why. I'm jealous and feel weird about it but I know I can't be controlling and tell him he can't have female friends. How do I deal with this?
So what if it is a female. There is nothing wrong with people being friends of opposite sex. My husband works out with some of our friends that are very hot, I meet old high school friends. & go out with male friends. It's just friends.
Work on your self worth and self image. That's how you can deal with your insecurity. The problem and the solution has nothing to do with your boyfriend or his friends, everything to do with you.
I think you're being just a tad immature, this is assuming of course your BF isn't a creep. That is the real question? Is he a creep? Can you answer that question honestly?
If he's not a creep let this go.... you're in for a world of hurt if you hang on to this sort of insecurity.
I think it is great that your BF tried to introduce you two over facetime. It shows that both of you are important to him (in different ways). A BF wouldn't do that if he had an alterior motive.
However, it is normal to feel the way you do. Just need to rationalize it and hopefully over time you'll feel more confident in your relationship.
I think it is great that your BF tried to introduce you two over facetime. It shows that both of you are important to him (in different ways). A BF wouldn't do that if he had an alterior motive.
However, it is normal to feel the way you do. Just need to rationalize it and hopefully over time you'll feel more confident in your relationship.
Thank you! I agree with you I know he's not doing anything sneaky I just have to have faith in our relationship and work on my insecurity.
I think it is great that your BF tried to introduce you two over facetime. It shows that both of you are important to him (in different ways). A BF wouldn't do that if he had an alterior motive.
However, it is normal to feel the way you do. Just need to rationalize it and hopefully over time you'll feel more confident in your relationship.
Agreed, although I wonder why he wasn't successful introducing the two.
A guy that goes out to the bar with a 'friend' he wants to score with will absolutely not be introducing her to his girlfriend.
So OP I wouldn't worry too much about it. Relationships are about trust.
Thank you! I agree with you I know he's not doing anything sneaky I just have to have faith in our relationship and work on my insecurity.
I've always had a lot of women friends in my circles.... Every woman I have dated had to go through the same process. You cannot control how you feel but you can choose what to do with that feeling; rationalize it. The good news is that with familiarity it becomes easier.... trust is built.
It is a two way street. IMO, guys are even more protective. We all have those feelings... I think it is in our nature. You either avoid those situations or you deal with it. I had an "unconventional" relationship and there was no avoiding it.
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